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yeah, i did say it nicely, over and over. but you know i feel really bad now and i guess there is no winning on this one... she has an angels heart and i am just a superficial man. life is a series of tradeoffs right ?? if i leave now, ill feel like an ass the rest of my life, if i stay ill just have to alter my percepetion.. maybe it will be good if she cheats on me.. who knows maybe it will be good if i cheat on her..... doubtful though since all of this started from me not being able to deal with the dishonesty in the bedroom...... and feeling ashamed because i was having to visualize more attractive women just to keep it up... WTF
In my opinion. . . this does not sound like an ordeal simply about physical attraction. It sounds like you are no longer "in love" with her, despite loving her. When someone falls out of love, it's sometimes very difficult to get back.
yeah, i did say it nicely, over and over. but you know i feel really bad now and i guess there is no winning on this one... she has an angels heart and i am just a superficial man. life is a series of tradeoffs right ?? if i leave now, ill feel like an ass the rest of my life, if i stay ill just have to alter my percepetion.. maybe it will be good if she cheats on me.. who knows maybe it will be good if i cheat on her..... doubtful though since all of this started from me not being able to deal with the dishonesty in the bedroom...... and feeling ashamed because i was having to visualize more attractive women just to keep it up... WTF
yeah, i did say it nicely, over and over. but you know i feel really bad now and i guess there is no winning on this one... she has an angels heart and i am just a superficial man. life is a series of tradeoffs right ?? if i leave now, ill feel like an ass the rest of my life, if i stay ill just have to alter my percepetion.. maybe it will be good if she cheats on me.. who knows maybe it will be good if i cheat on her..... doubtful though since all of this started from me not being able to deal with the dishonesty in the bedroom...... and feeling ashamed because i was having to visualize more attractive women just to keep it up... WTF
WHAT??? Now all of a sudden you think you might leave her over being less attractive than you'd like??? What kind of wedding vows did YOU take?
yeah, i did say it nicely, over and over. but you know i feel really bad now and i guess there is no winning on this one... she has an angels heart and i am just a superficial man. life is a series of tradeoffs right ?? if i leave now, ill feel like an ass the rest of my life, if i stay ill just have to alter my percepetion.. maybe it will be good if she cheats on me.. who knows maybe it will be good if i cheat on her..... doubtful though since all of this started from me not being able to deal with the dishonesty in the bedroom...... and feeling ashamed because i was having to visualize more attractive women just to keep it up... WTF
Wait...do you feel dishonest because you have to visualize more attractive women in the bedroom in order to have sex? What's exactly going on here?
yeah, i did say it nicely, over and over. but you know i feel really bad now and i guess there is no winning on this one... she has an angels heart and i am just a superficial man. life is a series of tradeoffs right ?? if i leave now, ill feel like an ass the rest of my life, if i stay ill just have to alter my percepetion.. maybe it will be good if she cheats on me.. who knows maybe it will be good if i cheat on her..... doubtful though since all of this started from me not being able to deal with the dishonesty in the bedroom...... and feeling ashamed because i was having to visualize more attractive women just to keep it up... WTF
The thing is that I think there's more to this story before the weight started to pile IMO which would make a difference.
It all goes back to the famous Marilyn Monroe saying:
"If you cannot accept me at my worst, you do not deserve me at my best."
Positive reinforcement.
Hi JeepGirl118,
Then perhaps when he said it, it was at his worst. She should accept him as he is no? That's the trouble with logic that works one side of the equation. We accept each others flaws but we also try to make an effort.
There's sought of a double standard even when it's for something like this, so much for equality.
If said to a female like the OP said it it becomes a crime and she's hurt b/c she got fat and is the victim.
If the same said to a Man from her she'd say something like this: "he deserved it he got fat that lazy so and so".
And don't tell me about feelings as the female seems to be the only one that has them and the man's feelings never count it seems...... may as well be chop liver.
There is no double standard. The same goes for a man. He must stay attractive and in shape. He must be attentive to his wife's needs, and she to his.
Equality? In the US, equality has gone over the edge and in many ways it has become a female dominated society. Poltical correctness has run amok, men are not allowed to be men any more in many ways. Just look at this thread for example. Everyone is jumping down the guys throat for the petty reason that he was a bit rude..... Yeah, he was a bit rude. It's NO big deal. You gotta have a thicker skin than that about things.
The guy said that he told her many times about it. It sounds like this was not the first time he told her.
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