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Looks like you're an exception to the rule, from what I've been told, since you were 38 and had no prior kids or marriages. I assume your husband had no prior history as well.
LOL true, it's not easy to find the right spouse.
True, there are hospital and financial decisions that my coworker and his long-term g/f couldn't make for each other. But who knows, maybe they listed beneficiaries and executors (or whatever it's called) as each other.
My husband had been married previously, and has two children. One was grown and married with children of her own, and the other was 13 when we married. I didn't consider it baggage, though. When I think of baggage, I think of emotional baggage - and that was never an issue with us. Sure, there was child support, but that's over with now.
My husband had been married previously, and has two children. One was grown and married with children of her own, and the other was 13 when we married. I didn't consider it baggage, though. When I think of baggage, I think of emotional baggage - and that was never an issue with us. Sure, there was child support, but that's over with now.
I see, so for you it wasn't an issue. I, myself, would find it tough to marry someone that had a prior history. And I know the longer I wait, the harder it will be to find a never-married woman w/o kids. But I won't let that be a compelling reason to rush into marriage.
I see, so for you it wasn't an issue. I, myself, would find it tough to marry someone that had a prior history. And I know the longer I wait, the harder it will be to find a never-married woman w/o kids. But I won't let that be a compelling reason to rush into marriage.
Beowulf, we all have prior histories......some of our histories are more evident than other since they're wearing Gap for Kids (or in my case, Joseph A Banks suits!) ...but you have a history, too. It may not be a child, but you DO have a history. Maybe you can keep it hidden, maybe not. Maybe it's something a woman wouldn't find attractive if she "saw", but you can hide it under a bushel basket.....we that have had children can't twitch our nose and make our history go away long enough to meet Mr. Right...and when we meet him, he has to accept that we had another life before him. I know my husband certainly had another life before me even though he hadn't been married.....just because his other life doesn't walk upright, breathe and eat doesn't mean it wasn't there!
Look at it this way - if my husband hadn't been able to look past my two histories (whom he conveniently got to put through college and law school), he wouldn't have the AWESOME wife he has now!
I see, so for you it wasn't an issue. I, myself, would find it tough to marry someone that had a prior history. And I know the longer I wait, the harder it will be to find a never-married woman w/o kids. But I won't let that be a compelling reason to rush into marriage.
I agree that it shouldn't be a compelling reason to rush into marriage. At the same time, to completely rule out anyone who has been married before, and/or had kids, might make you miss out on an absolutely fabulous relationship.
I'm not saying it's easy, but with the right person, it's absolutely worth it. There have been times where it hasn't been easy for us, but I wouldn't trade a minute of my time with him for anything in the world. Please know that I'm not here to criticize your decision - rather, I'm suggesting that keeping a little bit of an open mind might reward you greatly.
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Not struggling with divorce
Sorry to hear that. 
