Women Who Attract Controlling Men: 2-Way Street?

[Zepheyr]

Originally Posted by TJenkins602

I think if you are timid, and quiet, you are going to attract controlling people. Even I have controlling people try to force their way into my life, but I ain't havin' it.

I don't think that's true. There's nothing inherently dangerous about being timid and quiet, and most people I know would think a girl like that is sweet.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by Zepheyr

I don't think that's true. There's nothing inherently dangerous about being timid and quiet, and most people I know would think a girl like that is sweet.

Still. It's that sweetness that attracts "predators"

My experience and what I have seen of my friend.


People take kindness for weakness.


Then there are the controlling types that are attracted to "strong" people and want a challenge.

If you are going to stand out in anyway, you have to be prepared for consequences

Not about anything being "inherently dangerous" about being timid and quiet. There is the factor of standing up for yourself.

I've personally learned that the hard way.

[Frayzer]

Originally Posted by Chanteuse d' Opéra

Are these women at fault for staying with the man who controls them? Because they (in essence) are allowing themselves to be controlled or are the men at fault for controlling them? What are the personalities & qualities of the women who attract domineering men (for whatever reason) & how can she stave him off in the future? I've heard it's often quiet, vulnerable, or timid-looking women (although in fact they are not timid at all, just appearance-wise)who attract these men? What are your thoughts?

Both parties are at fault.

One likes to be controlled whilst one likes controlling others. The best thing to do is leave their relationship alone, because it's not yours and you should not dictate what's right or wrong in someone else's relationship.