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My husband is much smarter than me. Knowledgable. I'm more organized and will research to know something...but he just naturally is smarter. Was gifted as a child...so I guess the "giftedness" doesn't go away so he has a higher IQ, but it really does bother me. I'm no where near dumb, but as most of you know...I am in the education profession, and it really gets to me.
intellectual compatibility is primordial in a relationship.
With my first ex, I was smarter.. that eventually played a part in me leaving him.
With my last ex, we were 'equal' eventhough I had more education, he was very intelligent and very successful in everything is was doing. No wonder he's now a millionnaire and a great guy.
I would definitely not date a man who is not as intelligent as I am...it would be too boring...
The truth is when we were first married my wife was not to bright, she had been told she was stupid by her parents all her life and sheltered from the outside world, I would have to say I was much smarter than she was.
In the present she has really came on over the years while I have taken a downward spiral, she's very intelligent and succesfull. I took some major head trauma 12 years ago and just never came back to 100% and even if I was she is still much smarter than me but she's also a real down to earth person so it works out fine.
When we first met I thought I was smarter than him but then I realized we were both smart in different areas and yes now I think we are equal and we get along very well and discuss so many things.
What would you think about being married to someone who was not as smart as you are? Does your husband or wife have the smarts you have? Do they challenge you intellectually?
The reason I ask is many of the women I know tell me they do not want to marry a smart man but someone sexy. (Not that someone can not be both). A number of women at the office was talking about the Men on the TV Show "Lost" and who they most wanted to marry. Was it Jack the smart Doctor? Or Hurley the soft and sweet man-child? Or Sawyer, the brunting, dark (in mood) macho type- who is not so bright. Most of the women wanted to get married to the Macho dark and dangerous Sawyer.
Brains are out, Macho and Dark at in.
In all honesty, I tend to lose interest in a man who is not the sharpest tool in the tool shed. I have dated gorgeous men who could barely drive and chew gum at the same time - after awhile it would get on my nerves.
My husband is one of the smartest people I've ever met... but I like to joke with him and say that he's the looks and I'm the brains in the relationship
Um, you need to throw Sayid in the mix.....if you add him my brains might go out the window! Although Jack is hot too. I wouldn't pick Sawyer, dum is just not sexy to me.
My husband is my intellectual equal in terms of educational level, etc..., but we have different strengths. He is an accountant and I am a school counselor so we have different intelligences in some things.
Dawn
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Originally Posted by Dingler
What would you think about being married to someone who was not as smart as you are? Does your husband or wife have the smarts you have? Do they challenge you intellectually?
The reason I ask is many of the women I know tell me they do not want to marry a smart man but someone sexy. (Not that someone can not be both). A number of women at the office was talking about the Men on the TV Show "Lost" and who they most wanted to marry. Was it Jack the smart Doctor? Or Hurley the soft and sweet man-child? Or Sawyer, the brunting, dark (in mood) macho type- who is not so bright. Most of the women wanted to get married to the Macho dark and dangerous Sawyer.
Brains are out, Macho and Dark at in.
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