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can i assume if i havent seen someone in 2 weeks BUT he is regularly contacting me that its over? this is about that guy i went on that house date with. due to our schedules, we rarely get to see each other but made it a point to speak to each other regularly at to see each other at least 1x a week.
anyway i am going out of town this week for 5 days. i still figure he will communicate with me, and i will communicate back, but it just seems like this is what our relationship will be like until the end of october (my work hours will get much lighter at the beginning of nov).
anyway i want to ask him if this is basically what he wants out of seeing me- just someone he can communicate with regularly (a friend basically), but go out with 1-2x a week on a more intimate level.
im just trying to figure out if i should do this asap, or wait till i get back from my trip to where we can go back to how it was last week.
the thing that makes this really hard is it is presumptuous because we havent dated each other for that long.....
can i assume if i havent seen someone in 2 weeks BUT he is regularly contacting me that its over? this is about that guy i went on that house date with. due to our schedules, we rarely get to see each other but made it a point to speak to each other regularly at to see each other at least 1x a week.
anyway i am going out of town this week for 5 days. i still figure he will communicate with me, and i will communicate back, but it just seems like this is what our relationship will be like until the end of october (my work hours will get much lighter at the beginning of nov).
anyway i want to ask him if this is basically what he wants out of seeing me- just someone he can communicate with regularly (a friend basically), but go out with 1-2x a week on a more intimate level.
im just trying to figure out if i should do this asap, or wait till i get back from my trip to where we can go back to how it was last week.
the thing that makes this really hard is it is presumptuous because we havent dated each other for that long.....
Not sure why you feel the need to do anything at all? Why not just wait to see what kind of friendship develops over time?
Not sure why you feel the need to do anything at all? Why not just wait to see what kind of friendship develops over time?
yeah you are probably right. i just figured it might be better to ask him, but then i would be opening up a can of worms when so far everything has been going well except for the hardly seeing each other part.
You have entered the "friend zone". It's very possible he wants to keep a foot in the door but there can be no question that he is dating others. These days with emails and texts it's easier to keep the lines of communication open without the time and committment of a real phone conversation. Emails and texts are an easier way to control the contact - since it's not the same as a voice, real time conversation - it's easier to keep a distance but always be able to claim you are keeping contact.
It's entirely up to you if you want to keep the contact open. If you do, please understand it is what it is - nothing more!! You should make an effort to date others - don't keep this guy at the top of your list. He is not showing enough interest.
Here is what I would assume. He wanted you over to his house for some action. Since that did not happen and he did not get to use you as he wished...He is not interested in you as much as he was or he is playing some stupid game to make you more interested in him. Ditch em.
Here is what I would assume. He wanted you over to his house for some action. Since that did not happen and he did not get to use you as he wished...He is not interested in you as much as he was or he is playing some stupid game to make you more interested in him. Ditch em.
But since she's busy herself and going out of town for a number or days, what's the harm in letting things ride? Maybe he really is just very busy right now too?
can i assume if i havent seen someone in 2 weeks BUT he is regularly contacting me that its over? this is about that guy i went on that house date with. due to our schedules, we rarely get to see each other but made it a point to speak to each other regularly at to see each other at least 1x a week.
anyway i am going out of town this week for 5 days. i still figure he will communicate with me, and i will communicate back, but it just seems like this is what our relationship will be like until the end of october (my work hours will get much lighter at the beginning of nov).
anyway i want to ask him if this is basically what he wants out of seeing me- just someone he can communicate with regularly (a friend basically), but go out with 1-2x a week on a more intimate level.
im just trying to figure out if i should do this asap, or wait till i get back from my trip to where we can go back to how it was last week.
the thing that makes this really hard is it is presumptuous because we havent dated each other for that long.....
I wouldn't recommend having "the talk" with him until YOU know what you want out of your relationship. I know that you really enjoy his company, but I don't get the sense that you are crushing on him... and from your posts, you certainly aren't in a rush to get physically intimate with him.
So if you have "the talk" with him... are you just going to go along with what HE wants? And if he asks you, how long will it be before you would consider having sex with him? One month, two months... or not at all? Are you just wanting a guy to "date" until you move to Austin?
I just am not seeing where you are actually feeling romantic towards this guy. It seems that you like his company more as a platonic friend and buddy. Otherwise, I wonder if part of what is holding you back from being intimate with a man is due to your still living at home with your parents. Or from a thread of yours in the Education forum, you mentioned suffering from anxiety attacks in school. Do you also suffer anxiety attacks when dating? Are you in therapy for your anxiety attacks? Maybe you should resolve that issue before attempting to start a relationship as it's handicapping you and also not fair to waste your dates' time in a futile effort.
BTW how long does it usually take for you to get intimate with a boyfriend? And how many real boyfriends have you had? And how long did those relationships last?
Communication is a plus. Why not just ask him? IMO, if he hasn`t stopped calling you, then obviously he doesn`t consider it being over.
Its when he stops the calls, and contact....that you can assume its over.
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Why not just ask him? IMO, if he hasn`t stopped calling you, then obviously he doesn`t consider it being over.
