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What kind of "vibe" are you putting out there that these total strangers feel they can put their hands around your waist to talk to you?
Who me? My vibe is quiet and aloof. I don't dress revealing, but I do dress a bit arty which gets attention. I'm not sure what you're getting at. I mean, the whole "she was asking for it" mentality doesn't sit well with me....
Who me? My vibe is quiet and aloof. I don't dress revealing, but I do dress a bit arty which gets attention. I'm not sure what you're getting at. I mean, the whole "she was asking for it" mentality doesn't sit well with me....
Total strangers don't typically put their hands on someones body in that way to talk to them. Just wondering if you were coming off a little flirty.
When I was younger and was into the social scene, it was a common move in the crowds. Pull someone closer into you so they can hear you. It never bothered me as long as they weren't forceful and took a hint when I wanted them to back off. I guess it depends on your level of comfort with being touched. I like physical affection and as long as I don't get the creep vibe, I'm down.
*slips his arm around spinx's waist*
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I highly doubt they are pimps, and I don't see myself attracting that kind of attention anyway. I just think they are creepy old dudes trying to touch young women.
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
There's a scene in the movie "Hitch" where Will Smith goes over this exact thing before a date. Where the hands go.
"Small of her back. Any higher says I want to just be friends...any lower and...well...you just want to grab some A$$." LOLOL
DH is more than a foot taller than me, and when we are in a crowded room, he goes for the waist and guides me through the crowd, almost like he's leading a dance. It tells me that he's in protection mode, he's making sure I get through the people (which at 5 feet tall can be quite a crowd), and he's showing me security.
When I stand in one spot and there are men talking to me, I take it as his claim that she's mine and not going anywhere fellas. LOL
I think its a polite gesture. My dad does this in crowds if he's leading a woman, whether it be my mom or his cousin. It's just his way of securing the woman through crowds.
As far as a fancy event where your skin is showing down your back, that's a more intimate touch-skin to skin-and I would be taken aback if a strange man did that to me too. I'm 5 foot tall, so he would look rather awkward if he was over 6 feet, stooping down to pull me close to talk in my ear LOLOL
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
Uhhhh ok. Am I your boyfriend or husband? If so, then I will occasionally do that out in public with you but I will not put my hand on your butt unless we are alone. If I am a family friend, an acquaintance, we just got introduced or anything else, I am not touching you anywhere unless we greet each other with the exchange of a shaking hands. You will get a hug from me if we're good/old friends. Other than that, you're hands off because you're not my girl. I think its inappropriate even if we're being set up on a date and meeting for the first time.
If a guy is doing that, he knows he's doing that and he's got a crush on you, whether it be I want to get you into bed kind of crush or one of those school boy crushes, that is hard to tell and you'd have to watch his behavior to see what else he tries.
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I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that. 
