Are men aware of their behavior when they put their arm/hands around a woman's waist... (dating, wives)
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It's happened a few times but the only guys that actually get away with it are family (my brother or a couple cousins). Anyone else will likely be pushed away gently with a laughable insult, hinting that they should watch who they are putting their hands on.
My theory is hands off unless she's giving you a signal. If you are too dense to realize women do not want 'some stranger or acquaintance' pawing them then you deserve the bunch of fives you will get...
And if my husband is around, well, I feel sorry for you...
Some guys are more touchy-feely then others. Me personally, I would never put my arm around a woman's waist unless she was either my wife, girlfriend, or someone who I shared a mutual attraction with. I think putting your arm around a woman's waist is beyond just a friendly gesture, it's a little more intimate than that.
I don't know if it makes a difference, but when I say hands/arms around waist, I mean when standing side by side. I'm not referring to when you're in conversation face to face and a man pulls you closer at your waist. (That one is pretty obvious to me. )
I know for a fact that most of the men are not hitting on me, but I have noticed that it's definitely related to my appearance. If I'm dressed casually, where my clothes do not reveal my figure, then I find that it doesn't happen. If I'm dressed up and in heels, it happens all the time. And again, I don't feel these men are being inappropriate per se. I never got the feeling that they were trying to cop a feel, but yet I am aware that they have their arms around me. Sometimes I wonder if they're doing it to see what it would be like to stand alongside a "tall girl". (Sounds crazy, but I wonder if the other tall woman on these boards know what I'm talking about. )
I should clarify that I'm not just referring to strangers. I've had in-laws, friends' family members and acquaintances do this. I've always assumed it was a behavior they learned or that's how they naturally are with women, but it was never something I had witnessed within my family. This weekend just made me wonder if there was possibly more to it or at least more of an awareness than I initially thought.
yes, men know exactly what they're doing when they do that
as a single guy, at parties, if i was interested in a woman, i would put my hand on the small of a woman's back as i was talking to her, it shows interest and the women know that
Total strangers don't typically put their hands on someones body in that way to talk to them. Just wondering if you were coming off a little flirty.
I am not flirty in the slightest. I'm pretty detached & lost in my head most of the time.
Plus, I am not interacting with men in that situation. It's usually that they are walking past me, and will put their hand(s) on my waist to "move me aside". It doesn't happen enough to be a huge deal, but it's mildly annoying.
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Originally Posted by SifuPhil
Not literally - more like, a pimp mindset - bold, assertive, chauvanistic...stupid.
Well friends with lots of guys and I will let you know..There is the tall girl thing, the asian girl thing, The white girl thing, the black girl thing, the chunky girl thing yadda yadda yadda...
I do it, but generally only to women I'm attracted to. Sorry, that nice little curve just screams "hug me" for some reason.
Don't get me wrong, I don't do this to every woman, just those I know and I'm comfortable with.
Exactly. I've never had a stranger do that to me. Just guy friends of mine who I know well and are comfortable with. I don't mind when my friends do it but if I guy I've never met before did it, I'd be taken aback a little.
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
For the record...there are some women you can't put your arm around their waist.
Seriously though...it's kinda borderline. You know, bursting the bubble. If a woman does that to me it's waaaaaay too uncomfortable.
Kinda like a person that talks too close. I don't like that. I have a distance I try to maintain and if they continue to move in I back away. After a while I turn and walk away.
Sorry you have men doing this to you. It's not a good thing. They know exactly what they are doing.
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(Sounds crazy, but I wonder if the other tall woman on these boards know what I'm talking about. ) 
