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You are being "felt-up" - having your waters tested, in a sense. How you handle it will be noted by others, also. If you don't like it, stand in front of a mirror sometime and try to see the expression on your face and other body language to see what vibes you are giving off. Ask a friend (preferably male) to watch you in social situations. I bet you are putting out a vibe - you also mention it happens more when you're dressed up vs casual. How you dress also determines body language. People's posture changes depending on clothing - it's one reason why schools are going back to uniforms - dress determines behavior.
I am seldom touched except when I know I'm giving off vibes that say it's ok to do so. You may not be inviting the touch, but you're not saying no either. It doesn't excuse the predatory/pimpy behavior of those guys.
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
Your husband lets other man put their hands on you?
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
The only time I let a guy do that is if I am dating him, or we are about to make out, otherwise his hands should be nowhere near my waist! You have to have clear boundaries - nevermind the reason for the men doing it, it is your body and no ones hands should be all over you pulling you closer, unless you allow them to.
I'm a lifelong bachelor and flirt and have NEVER put my hands, unbidden around a woman's waist and pulled her close to me as you describe. And I'm a musician and so play a LOT of parties and such. My guess is you're hanging around with a bunch of drunks who do this, or you're simply flattering yourself by saying that alot of ment do it when in actuality it's been done maybe twice to you by old farts who have been "overserved."
You are being "felt-up" - having your waters tested, in a sense. How you handle it will be noted by others, also. If you don't like it, stand in front of a mirror sometime and try to see the expression on your face and other body language to see what vibes you are giving off. Ask a friend (preferably male) to watch you in social situations. I bet you are putting out a vibe - you also mention it happens more when you're dressed up vs casual. How you dress also determines body language. People's posture changes depending on clothing - it's one reason why schools are going back to uniforms - dress determines behavior.
I am seldom touched except when I know I'm giving off vibes that say it's ok to do so. You may not be inviting the touch, but you're not saying no either. It doesn't excuse the predatory/pimpy behavior of those guys.
I'm a lifelong bachelor and flirt and have NEVER put my hands, unbidden around a woman's waist and pulled her close to me as you describe. And I'm a musician and so play a LOT of parties and such. My guess is you're hanging around with a bunch of drunks who do this, or you're simply flattering yourself by saying that alot of ment do it when in actuality it's been done maybe twice to you by old farts who have been "overserved."
I find that when I'm out at social events that entail me to be dressed up and therefore show my figure, men will put there arm around my waist and pull me closer to talk to them. I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that.
If a man does that, does he tend to do that with all women? Or only women he's attracted to? Are some men conscious of that behavior...are they actually trying to get a feel for the woman's body? Or is this just a natural instinct or possibly a learned behavior where men don't even realize they're doing it?
I'd only make physical contact like that if I were single and the gal was also single and being open\friendly. I am very proper and old-fashioned in those regards. Is this a coastal thing? I can't fathom putting my arm around say...some of my neighbors wives in such a fashion.
1) My late wife was HOT...she got felt up a bit on her wedding day dancing with creepy old farts.
2) I have been felt up in the past few months (boob press on arm etc.) by acquaintences of my gf while having a party or out on the town. There is NO mistaking thier *intent* one is single, the other in a bad marriage to a man almost 30 years older....eeeeeek! Maybe I need to get my belly back? Lol.
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I don't think there are any intentions there, nor do I take offense to it, but I was just wondering if any of the men here could lend some insight to that. 
