Single women with no kids, do you hesitate to date guys w kids? (dating, married)
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Alot of single girls that i know, have told me that they hesitate to date guys w kids, because their kinda selfish and dont like sharing the guys w his kids. They get upset that on the weekends that the guys have their kids, they cant go out or do anything w them, do you single ladies, hesitate to date guys w kids?
I usually don't date guys with kids but not for the reasons you mentioned. For me to see any potential in the relationship I need to know there won't be child-rearing responsibilities involved. I made a conscious decision not to have children - for many reasons - and I don't want them, not by birth or by adoption or by default.
That said, if the gentleman in question has teenagers - say 15 or older - then I'm willing to give it a go. I am not "jealous" of the time he spends with his kids - I think it's fantastic and would expect it. But I don't want the relationship to get serious and become the stepmom...I never wanted to drive the kids to soccer practice, don't wanna meet with the teachers, generally like to limit my interactions with kids. Knowing that his teenagers would grow up and be adults (notice I didn't say "out of the house" necessarily - I'm not stupid), I feel that I would be able to have conversations with them and treat them like adults.
Alot of single girls that i know, have told me that they hesitate to date guys w kids, because their kinda selfish and dont like sharing the guys w his kids. They get upset that on the weekends that the guys have their kids, they cant go out or do anything w them, do you single ladies, hesitate to date guys w kids?
I don't hesitate. I will not do it. Been there, done that, and the "child" wasn't exactly a child, either - age-wise that is... The children have to be out of the house and well on their own way.
I don't hesitate. I will not do it. Been there, done that, and the "child" wasn't exactly a child, either - age-wise that is... The children have to be out of the house and well on their own way.
Adult and teenage children are often worse than the younger kids. My brother was married to a woman with teenage children and it did not end well to say the least.
I hestitate dating guys with kids because I don't want kids, and a guy who has kids will always have to deal with his ex. That said, I'd never be jealous of a man spending time with his children--that's what a father is supposed to do.
It's good to hear that people know what they want...better than to just stumble in, get involved and then have it be a major issue.
There are always exceptions I guess but I think if you are looking on-line it's best to just set your criteria and see what you find.
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The children have to be out of the house and well on their own way.
