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There have been a lot of marriage threads so far. I used the search function.
What is the benefit for a guy to get married?
Honestly, a non-married guy can do everything that a married guy can do, but without tying the knot. Therefore what are the benefits? I see none.
How do you substantiate such a claim: a non-married guy can do everything that a married guy can do?
Does every non-married guy get regular sex, for free? (I don't know any men like that. Maybe I run with the wrong crowd.) I define regular as at least three times a week....without paying.
Does every non-married guy get help with the household duties? You know, someone to assist him with laundry, cooking, dishes, and etc. We're not talking about hiring a maid here.
Does every non-married guy have someone to listen to his complaints about work, his friends, parents, siblings and etc. consistently?
I have yet to meet a woman who would settle for a long-term non-commital arrangement. Maybe the ones willing to settle for such would not be worth my effort. I don't know. I met a fine lady at an early age and we have been married for nearly 30 years. The companionship is wonderful. I have also met many fine women who would like to be married but they tend to meet only men who want to take advantage of them.
With around 20% of the posts on this topic being your flippant dismissing of other people's reasons for marriage, I suspect that you certainly don't need companionship as long as you have an internet connection.
It is fun to hear young folks or people who have failed at relationships diss marriage.
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Personally speaking, as a committed child-free bachelor (decided on the former before the latter), the only half-way assured benefits of being married is if he wants children. Sex, he can usually get anyway, especially because women are more attracted to men who are in a relationship. Other than that, there's no real advantage. In fact, there's a real disadvantage to even living together in some states, particularly common law marriage ones. It's even worse financially if he's in a community property state (worst of all, a state that's both a community property AND a common law marriage one).
One of may reasons why I decided marriage is simply not worth it for me.
He gets an instant slave - someone to cook for him, keep the house clean, do his laundry, clean the toilets when he pees all over everything, sex slave, someone to baby his ass when he's sick ... have I left anything out?
Oh Twinkle Toes, you know that's not true... When a man gets married, he gets somebody who teaches him how to keep everything in the house in proper order... Such as - clean the dishes right away don't let them pile up, if you make a mess, clean it up before it leaves a permanent stain on the carpet, when you use the bathroom, put the toilet seat down because women cannot take a "number 1" standing up... ... among other things we have to do to accomodate a woman in our lives. - Of course being a single guy, I already know all that, except the toilet seat bit... but I can be trained..
All kidding aside, if I ever get married, I will never think of my wife as a "slave".
He gets an instant slave - someone to cook for him, keep the house clean, do his laundry, clean the toilets when he pees all over everything, sex slave, someone to baby his ass when he's sick ... have I left anything out?
Oh Twinkle Toes, you know that's not true... When a man gets married, he gets somebody who teaches him how to keep everything in the house in proper order... Such as - clean the dishes right away don't let them pile up, if you make a mess, clean it up before it leaves a permanent stain on the carpet, when you use the bathroom, put the toilet seat down because women cannot take a "number 1" standing up... ... among other things we have to do to accomodate a woman in our lives. - Of course being a single guy, I already know all that, except the toilet seat bit... but I can be trained..
All kidding aside, if I ever get married, I will never think of my wife as a "slave".
I took that fun away from my wife. I already knew how to do them before we met. She never got a chance to train me.
How do you substantiate such a claim: a non-married guy can do everything that a married guy can do?
Does every non-married guy get regular sex, for free? (I don't know any men like that. Maybe I run with the wrong crowd.) I define regular as at least three times a week....without paying.
And when the sex does happen, it's with the same person. Year after year after year, same person over and over. Definitely not an advantage! Variety is the spice of life.
There have been a lot of marriage threads so far. I used the search function.
What is the benefit for a guy to get married?
Honestly, a non-married guy can do everything that a married guy can do, but without tying the knot. Therefore what are the benefits? I see none.
For the woman, I see *a lot* of benefits. For example, she could cheat on her husband with his best friend, and then her husband could file divorce, and then the wife can take him to the cleaners and keep half of everything. Even some feminist judges are throwing prenups out of court in some states. She doesn't even need to help build the total worth of the couple, but she keeps the riches. I highly doubt a man could do the same to his wife, if he was cheating on her with her best friend.
Germany seems to have an interesting solution: I know a few couples in Munich who have kids together. BUT not only are they unmarried, but they live in separate houses/apartments. The kids split the time between the two places, the family spends time together, the guy and girl sleep over in each other's place. But both partners have their space to spend it alone, with or without the kids.
Of these couples I know, all have advanced degrees and all make well above six-figures in Euros.
I don't have exact details on whether or not the couples are out cheating on each other, other than they tell me that doing it this way actually is better for their sex lives and believe it minimizes cheating.
Any opinions?
In regard to the wife taking the husband to the cleaners after she's cheated on him, you're assuming that the husband is the breadwinner. More and more women are breadwinners these days. You are also referring to a specific situation but you were trying to make a one-sided point, so be it. If the tables were turned around the husband would have just as much right to the 50/50 community property, depending on the state you live in. You do make a point, however, that if the husband cheated with the wife's best friend, perhaps people may see things differently. That's what you call a double standard.
Both my husband and I work but when he comes home, he gets to relax and chill, watch tv, play video games, what have you. When I get home, I have to worry about dinner, bills, what household chores we need to get done, and the like. Granted, he makes more money than I do and his job is more stressful but I make a decent amount and my job isn't a walk in the park.
If the lifestyle the Germans have floats your boat then no one's stopping you. IMO, people shouldn't get married b'c there is some sort of "benefit" to the marriage whether you're looking at it from a man or woman's perspective. I would've never married my husband if he asked me, "Hmm, what's the benefit to marrying you?" You marry someone, IMO, b'c you love that person, b'c you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, b'c you know there is nobody else you will love more than your S.O., b'c you know that person in your heart of hearts is "the one", b'c you just can't imagine life without that person. Marriage should be a selfless act, not a selfish one. I guess then, there is a benefit: to love and be loved. To marry someone for any other reason than that, is a lie, IMO.
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- Of course being a single guy, I already know all that, except the toilet seat bit... but I can be trained.. 
