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12-30-2009, 09:23 AM
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There has been lots of interesting conversation on this board about what it means to be a good husband or wife. And when someone should consider divorcing their spouse.
One of the main conflict points of many married couples is frequency of sex. In another post I told everyone I really do not have much of a sex drive and have always felt that the act of having sex was kind of ugly, dirty and unpleasant. It does not have anything to do with my wife, who is just wonderful, my feelings about sex would be the same no matter who I was married to.
I am sure my wife is telling her friends about our unsatisfactory sex life and they are telling her to demand more sex from her husband (me). They are probably saying that it is a husband's role to keep his wife happy sexually and romantically. But is that really the case?
Does a husband have a ethical and moral obligation in a marriage to have a sexual relationship? Just like his obligation of: being a good father, provider and communicator. (Remember, we can not fake interest like a woman can)
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12-30-2009, 09:37 AM
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Location: Center of the universe
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
There has been lots of interesting conversation on this board about what it means to be a good husband or wife. And when someone should consider divorcing their spouse.
One of the main conflict points of many married couples is frequency of sex. In another post I told everyone I really do not have much of a sex drive and have always felt that the act of having sex was kind of ugly, dirty and unpleasant. It does not have anything to do with my wife, who is just wonderful, my feelings about sex would be the same no matter who I was married to.
I am sure my wife is telling her friends about our unsatisfactory sex life and they are telling her to demand more sex from her husband (me). They are probably saying that it is a husband's role to keep his wife happy sexually and romantically. But is that really the case?
Does a husband have a ethical and moral obligation in a marriage to have a sexual relationship? Just like his obligation of: being a good father, provider and communicator. (Remember, we can not fake interest like a woman can)
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Just one question. Why are you married? |
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12-30-2009, 09:42 AM
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Location: Amarillo, Tx
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I dont think that they have to be at thier spouses sexual beck and call. But you are supposed to get married because you are in love with someone. And part of expressing love is by having sex. If you arent interested in having a sex life with someone then maybe you should just stay single.
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12-30-2009, 09:44 AM
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Yes it is the case.
And I swear I'm not trying to start anything but---have you ever considered the possibility of you being gay?
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12-30-2009, 09:52 AM
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Location: Wyoming
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
Does a husband have a ethical and moral obligation in a marriage to have a sexual relationship? Just like his obligation of: being a good father, provider and communicator. (Remember, we can not fake interest like a woman can)
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Yes. Get out from behind your computer and make love to your wife. If you have no sex drive, see a doctor.
Go! Now!
Are you still here? Get!
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12-30-2009, 09:54 AM
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Location: 2nd state in the union...
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
I am sure my wife is telling her friends about our unsatisfactory sex life and they are telling her to demand more sex from her husband (me). They are probably saying that it is a husband's role to keep his wife happy sexually and romantically. But is that really the case?
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In your case, I think you would benefit from counseling....both for your marriage as well as your multiple personality disorder. |
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12-30-2009, 10:03 AM
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Originally Posted by wigirl920
in your case, i think you would benefit from counseling....both for your marriage as well as your multiple personality disorder.
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I second that. |
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12-30-2009, 10:10 AM
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No, I am not interested in men for sexual purposes either. The reason I am married is companionship and love. But not sex.
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Originally Posted by SmerkyGrl
Yes it is the case.
And I swear I'm not trying to start anything but---have you ever considered the possibility of you being gay?
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12-30-2009, 10:13 AM
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Location: SoCal again
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Have you always felt like that or just with your spouse?
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12-30-2009, 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
No, I am not interested in men for sexual purposes either. The reason I am married is companionship and love. But not sex.
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Get counseling. Sex is and must be included in love. As much as people like to tell others "you are perfect the way you are", I believe it is a load of BS because some people do need to be fixed. And I'm afraid to say --and I mean this in the kindest way possible ---you are one of them. |
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