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Yeah, the Middle Eastern thing makes me nervous. I thought "Not Without my Daughter" was a scary movie and then I've met 3 women with experiences, while not as extreme, they were bad.... just statistically you have a better chance with someone with more similarities to you than differences.
My wife and I work as a team and the Middle East men have a lot of difficulty dealing with a women. I'm sure they are not all this way but the ME men I've seen really do believe a woman is lower (maybe not the right word) in status than a man.
It's just a cultural thing but I believe a strong willed US woman would have trouble with the expectations of the culture and his family.
Not so much a language problem but a cultural issue.
The old school ME men are like that. As a youngster my parents moved around a lot, and for a while we lived in the Middle East and from my memory and from what my parents told me is that the younger men [under 30] were far more open minded than their older generations - sort of like over here. Or perhaps we just happened to meet the good men over there.
This really isn't about him being Middle Eastern; it's about him being a foreigner with a language barrier. I personally find these men to be attractive on various levels, especially as it applies to family. As with many cutures, some are overbearing, but that makes itself known fairly quickly.
Taking into consideration different customs, mannerisms, habits and, of course, the language barrier, some things just can't be overcome. In his case, there was a serious breakdown in communication. It wasn't something I could see myself working with long term.
This really isn't about him being Middle Eastern; it's about him being a foreigner with a language barrier. I personally find these men to be attractive on various levels, especially as it applies to family.
Oh, yeah, they can be attractive on many levels, buy being married to them isn't one of them.
I was just thinking back to when I was still doing the online dating thing. I received a lot of responses from Middle Eastern men. There was one man who was very nice, gentlemanly, good looking - an all around catch. But he had challenges with comprehension. We literally had 3 misunderstandings within a week of meeting because of this. I decided to pass.
Have you been in a relationship with a foreigner and was this an issue for you? Would you have the patience to work with it?
Yeah on the relationship with a foreigner and yeah language can be an issue, but it can be a good issue. Especially in the first stages when u r trying to learn each other. Listening, I mean really listening is something both parties have to do. However if u having adverse misunderstanding due to language, it may not be the language as much as it is cultural differences that are much harder to overcome. U r lucky u realized it early and passed....
language barrier can be passed if you're willing to work with the person. cultural differences, on the other hand, are more difficult to surpass. i am married to an american, speak and write english quite well, yet we do run into misunderstandings on daily basis, but we get through by explaining what we meant instead of what came out. cultural differences are a totally different. you just have to either accept how the person is, was raised, and not expect them to change just because you don't like it.
as far as meeting foreign men/women online, if i were you, i'd pass.
I've experienced this on a lesser level. He's very intelligent and has a great grasp on the English language, but the slang kills him. Some of the things he's said makes me go "UMMMM." lol. It's been a great lesson for me, though, to ask before reacting.
I honestly wonder...Guys who do the mail order bride thing...Is a language barrier a positive or negative thing?
I don't think any of the guys on here are going to admit to having a mail order bride. Not saying that none of them have one, but I don't think they'd admit it. Or call it that.
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I'm sure Mrstewart would appreciate a foreign MIL!
