wow, it's been a looooong time since i last posted anything in the forums....mostly because I was dealing with the exact same situation the OP has presented here.
I agree with the advise given by many wise people here. Right on.
Getting over a broken heart in the context of a divorce is perhaps the most difficult thing anybody can go through. But I assume the process is similar for other types of relationships. A broken heart is a broken heart regardless.
The one thing that has helped me the most is giving myself permission to
- i humbly admit.
It bruised my male ego at first; but the more I
, the more I was able to move through the grieving process.
The second thing that has helped is to push myself to do things alone. Yes, I understand the benefit of making new friends to have additional support systems. That helps fight the initial depression away. But when it comes to the reality of the grieving process, you must be able to learn how to be by yourself - slowly. Like going to the movies alone, going to the local bar alone, etc. That's where I've found the solitude to find myself again.
At first it was horrible because I did not want to be alone. But now I am getting more used to it, and it helps me greatly.