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I don't think I can and I highly doubt anybody can while living together.
Interesting. But I wonder, if you have that kind of overpowering chemistry with someone, then let's say you marry that someone, before you have a chance to think. You go through weeks and months ignoring the reality of your marriage license, still bringing each night to an explosive peak night by night, till one day, without warning you collapse in a corner out of exhaustion, and you look across the room and see her/him collapsed in another corner. In time, you both rise to your feet, dust yourself off, start to deal with each other as people with dimensions, with good qualities and bad, wisdoms and blind spots, frailties and strengths, and to both of your delight you begin to care for that other person as just that, a person, with dimensions, on a deeper level, a love akin to the love you've had for family and friends, do you think that chemistry will then dissipate? Be exposed? In order to have crazy chemistry do we have to minimize, only see what we want of a person, what we can use? I hope not.
Interesting. But I wonder, if you have that kind of overpowering chemistry with someone, then let's say you marry that someone, before you have a chance to think. You go through weeks and months ignoring the reality of your marriage license, still bringing each night to an explosive peak night by night, till one day, without warning you collapse in a corner out of exhaustion, and you look across the room and see her/him collapsed in another corner. In time, you both rise to your feet, dust yourself off, start to deal with each other as people with dimensions, with good qualities and bad, wisdoms and blind spots, frailties and strengths, and to both of your delight you begin to care for that other person as just that, a person, with dimensions, on a deeper level, a love akin to the love you've had for family and friends, do you think that chemistry will then dissipate? Be exposed? In order to have crazy chemistry do we have to minimize, only see what we want of a person, what we can use? I hope not.
Chemistry has alot to do with the "unknown" which is why it is so strong in the beginning. It's an alluring time while you are discovering each other little by little. Once you have lived with a person for an extended amount of time, you know all of their "secrets" and start to love them for who they are...faults, quirks, attributes and all.
IMO, chemistry is when you "get each other" and think along similar patterns which makes being with each other seemingly effortless.
Interesting. But I wonder, if you have that kind of overpowering chemistry with someone, then let's say you marry that someone, before you have a chance to think. You go through weeks and months ignoring the reality of your marriage license, still bringing each night to an explosive peak night by night, till one day, without warning you collapse in a corner out of exhaustion, and you look across the room and see her/him collapsed in another corner. In time, you both rise to your feet, dust yourself off, start to deal with each other as people with dimensions, with good qualities and bad, wisdoms and blind spots, frailties and strengths, and to both of your delight you begin to care for that other person as just that, a person, with dimensions, on a deeper level, a love akin to the love you've had for family and friends, do you think that chemistry will then dissipate? Be exposed? In order to have crazy chemistry do we have to minimize, only see what we want of a person, what we can use? I hope not.
I don't believe it happens to people who are able and/or willing to look at dimensions and deeper ordinary levels. That’s why relationships of this type go up in flames quickly. If it does happen to some, I've never known them, or read about them, or seen them in the movies, if you will... This is pure idealization and hope of attaining the unattainable and it doesn't last.
So, then, to both the above posters, both the above lovely posters I have no doubt in my imagination, do we have to settle for one or the other? This is a bleedin' drag! I'll be honest, I am in the middle of testing this theory, as we speak, and will report back my findings when I am physically more able. I like me some amour fou!
I'd appreciate it. THAT is the only way that we will truly communicate.
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