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How come you guys coddle her? Seriously, you guys need to tell her what she needs to hear, not what she wants.
Well, I'm trying to help her...so here goes:
On here all you do is talk about your hookups, or how you used to strip, or porn or sex. I can't imagine that your dates are all that much different. If you want a guy to be interested in YOU...you have to be interesting.
What do you like to do? What are your hopes and dreams?
Sex constitutes what, 2% of a week, at most? It's just not that interesting, and if that's all that is being advertised that is all the shoppers you will get.
You are also negative and reference how annoying you find people and how much you hate children? What, who hates children? I'd never want to hear that from a woman.
I'll bet dollars to donuts, that he was thinking with his penis. When you stopped him, his mind took over, and talked him out of it. The only thing I'll blame this guy for, is that he can't tell you he's no longer interested.
Are you saying that it's not good to have the desire to engage in passionate kissing on the first/second date, that it's ok to have the desire but just not give in, or that passionate kissing shouldn't even cross one's mind on the first/second date if looking for a long-term relationship?
First of all, read my post again. I said, "generally".
And yes...generally...those that are looking for a physical expression that soon, are usually not good candidates for a long term relationship. YES, it can happen, and it most assuredly did with me. But I think that is the exception, not the rule. I'm not saying that attraction shouldn't be there...it most assuredly should be. But acting on it too soon will most often end things pretty quick.
On here all you do is talk about your hookups, or how you used to strip, or porn or sex. I can't imagine that your dates are all that much different. If you want a guy to be interested in YOU...you have to be interesting.
What do you like to do? What are your hopes and dreams?
Sex constitutes what, 2% of a week, at most? It's just not that interesting, and if that's all that is being advertised that is all the shoppers you will get.
You are also negative and reference how annoying you find people and how much you hate children? What, who hates children? I'd never want to hear that from a woman.
I'll bet dollars to donuts, that he was thinking with his penis. When you stopped him, his mind took over, and talked him out of it. The only thing I'll blame this guy for, is that he can't tell you he's no longer interested.
I think a guy who does not want kids would love that.
What guy is not thinking with his penis?
If someone starts on the sex talk first date like you said he did....well thats the red flag right there to me. Its trashy and he was testing you with it. He was trying to gauge your threshold. Total creepo. (him (dateman), not you or J)
I wonder how most women would react if they were ready to have sex after 3rd, 4th or 82nd date, but the man was not ready and did not want to have sex? I bet most would throw their toys out of the pram like little 5 year olds. Cos how dare you turn them down, you know. The amount of time I've had the look "I can't believe you are turning ME down for sex" look from women I was out with is unbelievable. Pathetic. I was being judged cos I did not want to sleep with them. I guess when they say wait for the right time to have sex, they actually mean wait till its the right time for the woman.
Seriously...how many times since the dawn of man has this ever happened?
I personally would not throw a fit. I would just wonder why because its not normal behavior for most males. Anyone that treats you like crap because you don't want to do them is a waste of space in my opinion and probably a selfish lousy lay to boot.
Seriously...how many times since the dawn of man has this ever happened?
I personally would not throw a fit. I would just wonder why because its not normal behavior for most males. Anyone that treats you like crap because you don't want to do them is a waste of space in my opinion and probably a selfish lousy lay to boot.
That's not what happened here at all. The brain told the penis to slow down...and then convinced him that proceeding any further is ridiculous. Not all guys think with their penis all the time. I can tell him to shut up anytime...most guys can control his thoughts somewhat. In this case, the brain told him he wouldn't be able to sit through a third date, and if he tried he'd cut off blood flow for the rest of their lives.
So match boy has not responded to my texts or phone calls. I have NO idea of what happened. We had a great second date. However, I feel it might have to do with the fact that he went in for a kiss, which I did give him, but I didn't get my tongue involved. It was just an awkward location (in my car). Now normally I have no problem with an in car makeout but I really would have preferred our first real kiss to be outside of the car where he can hug me (nice big body). I was thinking of taking him to dinner on Friday and seeing what happens there but I guess not now. I'm thinking it maybe came down to the fact that he spent $100 that evening and all he got was a couple lip kisses??
I don't get it..If you give it up too easily, you're a hoe. If you behave, you're prude.
Welcome to the world of dating LOL if it were another guy he would have expected less. It seems you can't win and although men complain that we are too fickle and complicated, they don't make it easy for us. Keep your chin up, keep dating. There is a man for you out there.
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I bet most would throw their toys out of the pram like little 5 year olds. Cos how dare you turn them down, you know. The amount of time I've had the look "I can't believe you are turning ME down for sex" look from women I was out with is unbelievable. Pathetic. I was being judged cos I did not want to sleep with them. I guess when they say wait for the right time to have sex, they actually mean wait till its the right time for the woman.
