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Old 04-05-2010, 05:55 PM
 
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Sorry, but the way I'm reading your post doesn't sound to me like appropriate behavior when you are in a relationship with someone else.
I know but sometimes it's hard not to flirt with an attractive opposite sex member. I do admit in my other job positions, there were times it was a bit overdo but have never done it in boyfriend's presence.
Recently on my telemarketer position, it was with a co-worker who I won't see anymore because of difference in shift. We used to tossed each other, sometimes sit next to one another, pinch each other, smile and some chit-chat.
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Old 04-05-2010, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Sometimes you can't really help it if there's someone very attractive. Seriously how many of you ever done that? It's not cheating because you know your limits but I'm referring to smiles, joking around, maybe some playful pinches, platonic texts, sometimes exchanges in numbers, etc.

However, it doesn't mean you're going to cheat but you're only being playful. There's always going to be attraction with the opposite sex member.

Smiles, joking around and text messages wouldn't bother me.

But playful pinches and talking on the phone I'd have a problem with. That's mostly because it would be so extremely out of character for my fiance to do something like that, I would know immediately that he was being more than just a friend. I know that I wouldn't do those things with any random guy either.
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Old 04-05-2010, 06:46 PM
 
Location: VA
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I know but sometimes it's hard not to flirt with an attractive opposite sex member. I do admit in my other job positions, there were times it was a bit overdo but have never done it in boyfriend's presence.
Recently on my telemarketer position, it was with a co-worker who I won't see anymore because of difference in shift. We used to tossed each other, sometimes sit next to one another, pinch each other, smile and some chit-chat.
If you're not willing to do it in the presence of your significant other, you know it's wrong.
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Old 04-07-2010, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh's 'EAST SIDE'
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Sometimes you can't really help it if there's someone very attractive. Seriously how many of you ever done that? It's not cheating because you know your limits but I'm referring to smiles, joking around, maybe some playful pinches, platonic texts, sometimes exchanges in numbers, etc.

However, it doesn't mean you're going to cheat but you're only being playful. There's always going to be attraction with the opposite sex member.
Not me. But I never was a flirtatious person to begin with. I do none of that when I'm in a monogamous relationship. He can smile and joke around all day...heck, he tells me he does it at work, but if I ever found out my significant other was sending platonic texts and exchanging phone numbers, we would have a problem.
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Old 04-07-2010, 08:53 AM
 
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Seems like the trust is a big factor...
Most people in relationships know what their limits are, but there are ups and downs and likes and dislikes of everyone we meet that may be more or less attractive in others...

We do things differently around different people, even the ones we love
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Old 04-07-2010, 09:53 AM
 
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There's no platonic, innocent flirt when you are in a relationship. No matter how you sugarcoat it, you know it's wrong, inappropriate and disgusting.

Do we do it? Yes we do but that does not make it right in any way.
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Old 04-07-2010, 09:59 AM
 
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Sometimes you can't really help it if there's someone very attractive. Seriously how many of you ever done that? It's not cheating because you know your limits but I'm referring to smiles, joking around, maybe some playful pinches, platonic texts, sometimes exchanges in numbers, etc.

However, it doesn't mean you're going to cheat but you're only being playful. There's always going to be attraction with the opposite sex member.
To be honest I hardly notice other guys not to mention flirt with them but that's just me.
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Old 04-07-2010, 10:06 AM
 
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Sometimes you can't really help it if there's someone very attractive. Seriously how many of you ever done that? It's not cheating because you know your limits but I'm referring to smiles, joking around, maybe some playful pinches, platonic texts, sometimes exchanges in numbers, etc.

However, it doesn't mean you're going to cheat but you're only being playful. There's always going to be attraction with the opposite sex member.
Uhm yes, there is a problem with it.
You are on the verge of doing more.
Flirts need something and once they get that something who knows how for things will go from there.

In my opinion to avoid problems, don't do things to cause them...
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Old 04-07-2010, 10:08 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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Agreed Sunflower. I'm a flirt, my b/f knows it. It doesn't mean anything but I am a flirt, it's just part of my charming personality LOL
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Old 04-07-2010, 10:26 AM
 
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Agreed Sunflower. I'm a flirt, my b/f knows it. It doesn't mean anything but I am a flirt, it's just part of my charming personality LOL

I don't mean to be offensive but I don't find that "charming" in any way. I only find that you are something that is proud to be doing something inappropriate.
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