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If you found out that the woman you are dating was gang raped when she was younger, would it change your feelings towards her. I know a lot of guys say it doesn't matter but deep down, I think it does matter to most men.
The question sort of sounds like a woman is damaged goods if she suffered the misfortune to have been raped which also seems to penalize her for a crime in which she was the victim. I'm not quite sure what the OP is really getting at. As far as I'm concerned it wouldn't be an issue for me at all and I would be interested in the qualities that might make us compatible as a couple as opposed to any crimes that had been committed against her in the past.
I've always felt that being molested or raped doesn't count toward a person's sexual history since it wasn't by choice. So no it wouldn't make any difference to me.
If you found out that the woman you are dating was gang raped when she was younger, would it change your feelings towards her. I know a lot of guys say it doesn't matter but deep down, I think it does matter to most men.
Yes it would.
She would get much more sympathy and forbearance from me. Knowing that someone one I cared about was hurt by worthless trash in the past does matter. Hopefully the event has not scarred emotionally the woman to the point where all men are suspect. If that is the case it might make a relationship difficult. But I would not blame the poor gal for that.
If you found out that the woman you are dating was gang raped when she was younger, would it change your feelings towards her. I know a lot of guys say it doesn't matter but deep down, I think it does matter to most men.
If it's someone I didn't know and was casually dating and she just dropped that bomb on me, most likely will see her as damaged goods and probably end up dropping her. Too many other opportunities out there without that kind of baggage. If she's absolutely sane and great in all other ways and it doesn't affect her mentally, emotionally, or sexually then I might be able to look past it. If she's frigid and brings it up more than the one time she notifies you about it and plays the sympathy card, nope, not playing that game.
Is anyone really absolutely sane; give me a break. If you truly cared for her, it should effect you, and you would support her on this in any way. If not she should dump you and find a guy who does. There are plenty of cool guys who are supportive, and they're the ones whose girlfriends have more orgasms too.
Yes, it'd greatly affect me as a negative or "debit"...The question; is there enough of a positive or "credit" to make up for it?
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