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I guess the old saying "blood is thicker than water" must be true. I can't imagine what your wife must be thinking after you took her daughter and kids in and provided emotional and financial support. Those are the thanks you get for that?
I guess the old saying "blood is thicker than water" must be true. I can't imagine what your wife must be thinking after you took her daughter and kids in and provided emotional and financial support. Those are the thanks you get for that?
And much, much more where her children and grandchildren are concerned to the tune of many thousands of dollars over the past several years.
Oh well! The bank's run dry so I guess I have too.
Huh I echo what everyone else has said - this is a real shocker. Again, could be your DW just isn't handling this well and reacted in the worst way - this could all settle down. You two did seem so compatible - this isn't making any sense. I wish you the best (I guess when you decided to run away from home you should have kept going).
Time will tell but I hope this turns out well for you.
Well Curmudgeon, let me add my two cents here along with everyone else. What a slap in the face!! After all you have done.....gheesh. I was so shocked when I read that and thought you must be joking, but you're not.
I'm with you as far as the counseling goes or trying to make a "go" of things. If she has made her position about wanting to split, how could you ever have a decent relationship again, wondering if it will happen again?
I am so sorry, my friend, but like others have said, better to find out now than down the road. Remember that we are all here for you. Please keep us posted on how things are going for you. The rest of the bunch has made their bed, let them lie in it.
Curm, I've been thinking about you and your family all day since I read your post...threw a few prayers in there, too. From reading your posts in this thread and others, you come across as a steady, intelligent, stable guy with quick wit, good sense of humor, and caring personality. Just so ya know i don't think you need my feeble advice....lol! But something has been worrying me a bit, so just want to add a comment. You mentioned earlier about leaving with very little...I think along the lines of your guns, your files, your artwork? Something like that....and she is welcome to the rest and the attendant worries...hope that's close to what you said---I'm too lazy to look it up. :-)) I know you said your needs are few and that things don't matter....I just don't want you to give up everything when you're entitled to so much more...and while I realize we are very different, I did find it comforting, after going through my divorce and getting resettled, to have some of the "things" around me that spelled "home" of a sort. We have so many losses in divorce....our identity, our home, often our friends and our family, sometimes our self worth....just would like to sound a small note of caution to let the dust settle a bit before walking away from absolutely everything you've worked so hard for. I was not greedy, didn't ask for anything in an unfair manner, so am not coming from that direction, you understand. but don't sell yourself short. You're a savy guy and on top of many issues, so I would imagine all this rambling concern of mine is for naught, but just consider it as coming from a friendly source wishing you the best. Just give yourself some options.....sorry if this sounds presumptuous. Good luck. You DO deserve it, you know.
Curm, I've been thinking about you and your family all day since I read your post...threw a few prayers in there, too. From reading your posts in this thread and others, you come across as a steady, intelligent, stable guy with quick wit, good sense of humor, and caring personality. Just so ya know i don't think you need my feeble advice....lol! But something has been worrying me a bit, so just want to add a comment. You mentioned earlier about leaving with very little...I think along the lines of your guns, your files, your artwork? Something like that....and she is welcome to the rest and the attendant worries...hope that's close to what you said---I'm too lazy to look it up. :-)) I know you said your needs are few and that things don't matter....I just don't want you to give up everything when you're entitled to so much more...and while I realize we are very different, I did find it comforting, after going through my divorce and getting resettled, to have some of the "things" around me that spelled "home" of a sort. We have so many losses in divorce....our identity, our home, often our friends and our family, sometimes our self worth....just would like to sound a small note of caution to let the dust settle a bit before walking away from absolutely everything you've worked so hard for. I was not greedy, didn't ask for anything in an unfair manner, so am not coming from that direction, you understand. but don't sell yourself short. You're a savy guy and on top of many issues, so I would imagine all this rambling concern of mine is for naught, but just consider it as coming from a friendly source wishing you the best. Just give yourself some options.....sorry if this sounds presumptuous. Good luck. You DO deserve it, you know.
Tried to rep you, have to wait. I concur and echo everything you said, expressed so nicely.
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I echo what everyone else has said - this is a real shocker. Again, could be your DW just isn't handling this well and reacted in the worst way - this could all settle down. You two did seem so compatible - this isn't making any sense. I wish you the best (I guess when you decided to run away from home you should have kept going
).
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So disappointed for you....
