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Says you. I've seen perfect families. Successful mother and father, then the kids go off to be highly successful
Example? Friend of mine has 2 parents, both retired in the military at E9. Their son (my old high school friend) plays football and ends up getting picked up as an undrafted free agent in the NFL (Darryl Morris). He's a journeyman bench warmer but still in the league going on a good 5 or 6 years now. His sister does something else but she's a success too. Oh and it's an African American family.
There's plenty of stories like that in America. Is their family perfect? No. But in the sense that his parents are still married, successful, and he and his sister turned out to be successful? Yes.
You're defining a family by jobs whereas some others are defining it from a psychological point of view as to how family members get along or not, how they mesh, how they relate to each other, how they value each other or not, and emotional health.
Growing up, my house was like the brady bunch. My parents never, I repeat never, argued or raised their voices in front of my brother and I.
The older I get I realize how rare this is.....although my fiance and I dont argue either
Without knowing a lot more details of your family, I don't think not raising one's voice is an indicator on its own of a healthy family. There are families where the parents do not raise their voices to each other or argue, but they are certainly not fully emotionally or psychologically healthy families or marriages in other ways.
The older I am the more it dawns on me just how dysfunctional my family was/is. I realized there were some shortcomings when I was a teen but, well... I was a teen & I knew my parents worked really hard & sacrificed & on the surface things seemed pretty ok, etc.... But in recent years I have come to realize just how emotionally deficient the relationships were & how that sabotaged all 3 children's success at relationships or family life. None of us were able to do it or wanted any part of it.
I had some friends growing up that lived in real family horror shows too, so I know I had it better than them.
You're defining a family by jobs whereas some others are defining it from a psychological point of view as to how family members get along or not, how they mesh, how they relate to each other, how they value each other or not, and emotional health.
It's not mutually exclusive.
Unless you think those in poor/working class households, on average, have a stronger nuclear family than those in upper middle class or high class households.
I do. My parents were married 51 years when my mother passed away. My brother and I are close and he lives with my dad and takes care of him. My nephew is married with two beautiful children and we all talk or text pretty much every single day. I’ve always told people that I grew up in a “Beaver Cleaver” household.
My immediate family, yes I like to think it's perfect. DH and I will be married 17 years soon and get along great! We have two daughters that do well in school and keep out of trouble. We have a nice home in a great community and both have good jobs. So far so good!
Now, when you take a look and my parents and my in-laws, well......that's another story! Lol!
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