A Positive Take on Solitary Activities (divorce, marry, relationship, raising)
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It would probably be better stated that the people who surround them (even a spouse) are so incompatible it makes the person feel alone despite having beings with matching body temperatures in their space.
Granted; but FEELING alone is not BEING alone. At any rate, "solitary" (by definition) involves only one person.
Since I'm such a stickler, I'll have to check out the elder orphan controversy! The question of pets is an interesting one. While I personally believe pets are people -- and family -- and certainly great companions (better than most humans), you're still the only human...
Incidentally, if my spouse made me feel alone, I'd probably be looking to make a change in the new year?
I agree that it's an interesting topic "being alone". I agree with most everyone here, both sides. It can be a strange world sometimes. At least there's City Data. LOL.
I realize that the thread concerns "solitary activities"; the poster I quoted and responded to, however, mentioned "being solitary" with his spouse.
This is an age-old problem on C-D. Some people simply have no conception -- or are not capable of perceiving -- what it means to be literally alone, claiming to be "alone" with a spouse, child, grandchild, other relatives, friends, and neighbors (see the past "Alone for the Holidays" threads and note that they invariably wind up in the dumpster for this very reason).
I respect your point. I was more focused on the article nurturing solitary hobbies/activities.
The fact that the past 2 years have led to a deterioration in human civility, a solitary existence is not a bad idea until people relearn how to interact with others in a civil and respectful way.
Clementina, glad you enjoyed your lunch! Thanks for the reply.
Glad I read what you posted.
I've eaten alone before when I was traveling for work, but in ordinary life - not really. If I did, it would be a drive through pick up thing and bring it home.
But to sit in a place and eat alone - I can't remember doing that before unless as I said while I was traveling for work.
At last an article that says older people can be healthy without much social contact, doing solitary activities they love without feeling lonely. It does say a little contact us needed now and then, and even casual interaction helps.
Yes, people are different. Some are more loners, some are more social. I'd expect the former to do much better being solitary than the latter. But humans do better, as a rule, to have at least some social contact and love.
... Some people simply have no conception -- or are not capable of perceiving -- what it means to be literally alone, claiming to be "alone" with a spouse, child, grandchild, other relatives, friends, and neighbors (see the past "Alone for the Holidays" threads and note that they invariably wind up in the dumpster for this very reason).
Just got a long note from an old friend living in Europe, talking about his concern that he doesn't seem to care about other people, have friends, etc. He seems to take for granted his very happy marriage for some 35 years and refers to "living in isolation." Yes, isolation with the lovely Francesca. Without her, I think he'd note some other people!
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