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(Per the DNR tatoo, check on that.)
I saw a story many years ago about a woman who had one on her chest.
I don't remember specifics but Drs. couldn't follow it.
OP, travel if you like and enjoy. And/or what about donating something for someone or an organization?
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Remember, you'll be dead and won't care. You have no family, so they won't care.
It's actually pretty freeing.
Thats the way I feel about it too. Ive made provisions but you never know how things will work out. We can only control so much. In the end I will probably end up in a home for old ladies and use up all my monies anyways.
I have a will and a trust and the rest is POD. Everything goes to a scholarship fund. My Outlaws are going to be very surprised when they get nada. My attorney who is a lot younger than me is my executor. BTW. You can have your will recorded at the court house for a fee. That way theres no questions.
(Per the DNR tatoo, check on that.)
I saw a story many years ago about a woman who had one on her chest.
I don't remember specifics but Drs. couldn't follow it.
OP, travel if you like and enjoy. And/or what about donating something for someone or an organization?
I'd think unless the person's DNR tattoo also includes a doctor's signature, the signatures of two unrelated witnesses and a notary stamp, it could not be honored as the person's wishes. Though states may vary in their rules, these items are required for the DNR to be considered valid.
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I'd think unless the person's DNR tattoo also includes a doctor's signature, the signatures of two unrelated witnesses and a notary stamp, it could not be honored as the person's wishes. Though states may vary in their rules, these items are required for the DNR to be considered valid.
Ha, so true! My mother recently passed away. For years she told me that she had a living will. I never questioned it. When she was in medical distress, my sister called me to ask me if I knew where it was (I didn't), and then my sister called back to say she finallly found it! The EMTS looked at it and said, "This isn't valid. No doctor signed it." Doh! Thankfully, my mother was coherent enough (barely) to tell them she didn't want any life-saving measures. She passed away that night.
I'm not sure if my MIL had a living will or not, but she always verbally told us that she did not want to be "hooked up to machines" to live. Well, imagine our surprise when she had a stroke and needed a feeding tube that she told the doctors to do everything they can to keep her alive. She lived for 7 more months, barely coherent for most of them, lying in a nursing home bed.
If you want a DNR, make sure it's valid and that your loved ones know where it is and that it's easily accessible. It's hard to think clearly in the heat of a very stressful moment.
Remember, you'll be dead and won't care. You have no family, so they won't care.
It's actually pretty freeing.
Or just have no will. Once in a while you hear those stories of people inheriting money from a dead uncle they never knew existed.
I know a woman whose unmarried elderly aunt always told her she'd get everything when she died. She owned a couple of rental properties, had some money in the bank.
BUT, this woman was Catholic, as was her aunt, and she married an Episcopalian. They had their first two kids baptized Catholic, but when they moved back to the husband's hometown, he said we're going back to my church. Then they had a third kid, who they had baptized in the Episcopal Church.
Oddly, Aunt B did not respond to the invitation to attend the christening, nor did they hear anything from her, and she did not return phone calls. Eventually, the woman learned her aunt was in the hospital. She called the hospital and was told, "Oh she died yesterday".
A couple of months later, the woman went to the courthouse to see if a will had been filed. It had Aunt B left everything to some distant cousin on the other side of the country who probably wondered why the heck he was getting all this money from a woman he barely knew. All they can figure is that she was upset enough over the switch in denominations to cut her niece out of the inheritance. A lesson not to count those chickens before they hatch. Or stick with the relative's religious preference until they die.
So, there's another choice. Leave your money to some rando who didn't even know you!
How does one do that? I keep asking for specifics... I don't use banks; I use credit unions (higher interest rates).
As for "the attorney" being paid to execute a will at the time of death, what happens if you've spent all the money; it just doesn't get executed and he/she doesn't get paid?
I'm thinking of getting a reverse mortgage on the expensive property (then I won't have to worry about who gets that; the bank will) and THEN spending all the money! I'll have even more money to get rid of. What a lovely problem to have!
It also seems to me that a well-chosen annuity might make sense. Seems both of these things get a bad rap, but I don't see the problem with them under the right circumstances.
Don't you have any life insurance to take care of final expenses?
Yes, I carry a card with his number as an emergency. I have a daily call in service with Snug. If I don’t answer, two neighbors are contacted. If they aren’t available , the police are contacted.
I keep my lawyer's/executor's number in my wallet with my I.D.
Just called my lawyer to make sure everything is still in order. I deliberately chose a young person!
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