Leaving San Francisco Bay area (Oakland, Berkeley: transfer, neighborhoods, school)

[neutrino78x]

Originally Posted by bananaskin

1. rent is ridiculously high and increasing yearly, good housing difficult to find as more and more people are trying to get the same housing (I am paying 2k/month for a rundown 1-bedroom on the Peninsula, and this is deemed a 'deal')
2. because of housing and other living costs here (transportation, parking) I can not afford to buy a house here ever, difficult to build any savings here

Maybe not a house. But you could afford a small condo inside a building containing other condos. Not sure why you as a single person would want a whole house or even a whole condo, though.

You should move to downtown San Jose. It is an awesome place, very walkable; everything you need for daily life is within walking distance.

3. the weather is unpredictable and a little dreary for someone whose emotions are affected by fog and cold,

Another reason to go to San Jose. It's a lot warmer than SF.

5. the dating scene here appears to be lively, however, if you take part in it a woman will likely find it difficult here......that the men here do not take part in long term evolving relationships but are most often interested in short term fun filled encounters and seem to have other interests that preclude relationships such as working round the clock or are here only for 1-2 years for work or seem to have such short attention spans regarding all the dating options etc...; so many other men are socially unskilled and perhaps this is associated with the techie category? (I have gone to singles groups, meetups, had on average 1 date per month in the 5 years I have been here, and still have managed to stay unattached because of the above issues)

I'm 37 and have never been on a date or been in a relationship or had sex...no one has ever reciprocated my feelings...but my depressing lack of a love life is an exception....I think you can find a lot of attractive people in Silicon Valley.

[dalparadise]

You guys telling her to leave the City didn't read the OP. She doesn't live in San Francisco. She lives on the Peninsula.

OP--it doesn't sound like the Peninsula agrees with you. If you're attracted to suburban living, maybe somewhere like Walnut Creek would suit you better. You won't get much of a price break, but all of your other issues would be addressed.

[Tom Dempsey's Left Foot]

If you don't like a city or region, that's perfectly fine, you're absolutely free to move to a different location if you'd like. Dalparadise's suggestion of the Walnut Creek/far east bay area is definitely a good ide-wait, hold on:

Originally Posted by bananaskin

3. the weather is unpredictable and a little dreary for someone whose emotions are affected by fog and cold...

Bay Area...cold...unpredictable...I...I don't understa-

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by dalparadise

You guys telling her to leave the City didn't read the OP. She doesn't live in San Francisco. She lives on the Peninsula.

OP--it doesn't sound like the Peninsula agrees with you. If you're attracted to suburban living, maybe somewhere like Walnut Creek would suit you better. You won't get much of a price break, but all of your other issues would be addressed.

haha! I made a similar post to her the previous page. Walnut Creek would certainly be warmer, maybe too warm? I suggested Fremont, which would allow her to keep her job and commute across the bridge while providing a considerable savings on rent, but it's not great for dating, though the proximity to Berkeley and also San Jose would be useful for that.

Well, only the OP knows what she wants and doesn't want. I wish she'd give us more info.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Tom Dempsey's Left Foot

If you don't like a city or region, that's perfectly fine, you're absolutely free to move to a different location if you'd like. Dalparadise's suggestion of the Walnut Creek/far east bay area is definitely a good ide-wait, hold on:

Bay Area...cold...unpredictable...I...I don't understa-

This is why some people thought she lived in SF. Maybe she lives in Pacifica. I've never heard of the rest of the Peninsula being cold and foggy; to the contrary, people here have said the Peninsula is hot in the summers.

[04kL4nD]

Depends on where in the Peninsula. San Mateo and Redwood City are pretty warm. SSF, Daly City, San Bruno, and Colma get fog. Parts of Burlingame too.

[NickB1967]

Originally Posted by neutrino78x

Maybe not a house. But you could afford a small condo inside a building containing other condos. Not sure why you as a single person would want a whole house or even a whole condo, though.

Future spouse and family plans?

Originally Posted by neutrino78x

I'm 37 and have never been on a date or been in a relationship or had sex...no one has ever reciprocated my feelings...but my depressing lack of a love life is an exception....I think you can find a lot of attractive people in Silicon Valley.

Like I said. Unless she plans to be a "mad hermit", she probably wants room for a spouse, (step)kids, etc.

[BayAreaHillbilly]

Other than living in SoCal in early adulthood for edumacation and early career, I am a lifer.

Even so, unless I hit a windfall, when my career completes, I'm outta here.

No way to reconcile the extreme COL once the job thing is no longer relevant.

At this extreme COL level, I am expecting an NYC, a London, a Tokyo, a Paris.

Sorry to slime the boosters and rah rahs who post here, but we are not that good.

[wecaredalot]

A lot of the things you listed are parts of why I'm leaving SF at the end of this month. I don't care about the dating scene, but the high cost of the rent and the people/culture is not for me. I'm moving to LA next month.

Despite what people say, I've always felt like there's no true culture in SF. There's tech and that's about it. There aren't too many artists who are trying to make a living from their art; just tech folks that are trying to build the ~next big thing.~ It's boring and not worth the money.

Plus, I absolutely hated the fact that the city was so dirty and grimy! Literally, every street is covered in dog and/or human ****. It's disgusting. And although LA won't be much better, I hated that it took me 35 - 45 minutes to drive 6 miles in SF. For a city that's so small and relatively empty compared to LA, it makes no sense that the driving conditions aren't better. If my commute is going to be like that, then I figured I might as well move to LA, which is cheaper and has artsier folks.

[bmw335xi]

Originally Posted by BayAreaHillbilly

Other than living in SoCal in early adulthood for edumacation and early career, I am a lifer.

Even so, unless I hit a windfall, when my career completes, I'm outta here.

No way to reconcile the extreme COL once the job thing is no longer relevant.

At this extreme COL level, I am expecting an NYC, a London, a Tokyo, a Paris.

Sorry to slime the boosters and rah rahs who post here, but we are not that good.

SF in no way offers as much as major world cities yet its prices are quite up there, doesn't make sense.