Snow Birding (renting, buy, utilities)

[=^..^=]

Originally Posted by gettinoutofjersey

dear ---^^---,

in reading your posts, arguments and rebuttals, its enough to make ones head hurt.

Then don't read them. It's as simple as that.

[Old Man Winter]

Originally Posted by =^..^=

Then don't read them. It's as simple as that.

Cat lady I may be able to shed a little light as to why some cant resist reading your stuff.

It is almost like seeing a 400 lb woman in a bikini riding on a skateboard, it isnt pretty to see and it burns the eyes but morbid curiuosity takes over and they tolerate the pain.

I cant believe some of these posts take everything you say out of context, you are indeed being attacked and I personally would not stand for it.

[nphomeowner]

I'm new on this forum but not new to Forums at all. It's like "piling on". Don't know why people can't accept that everyone has different feelings, needs and wants. Forums apparently are pretty much alike. Nuff said.

[faithfulFrank]

As said before, we are all thankfully different. Our places are different.

Just to comment on a few things...

Our Gated community has 24/7 real gates with real people in them. They also drive cars around all day and night checking things, etc.
I have seen other communities around us that just have automatic gates that anyone can get into and out. Big difference.

My wife and I feel very safe there, walking late at night and early mornings, etc. Our neighbors are great, we have made deep lasting friendships with many of them. I feel like if my wife became a widow she would be embraced by a loving community and have tons of support and a lot to do.

Frank

[Big House]

Originally Posted by =^..^=

Can I assume you are also retired, age 66 and found real true friends there in FL? If so, where did you meet them? Are they singles or couples?

I didn't post that as an original thought since I never lived there. It was not my personal experience. Several other people posted the problem with making real true friends at my age. I also got a few of those private messages.
Not only did I read it here, but we were also told that by those we know who moved back here. Every friend they made there was superficial. And like that other poster wrote, if you ever need them, they fade away quickly. One of the problems seems to be ill health in my age group. These people are not looking to meet new people or go out with friends. And if you lose your spouse, the married couples drop you. You no longer fit. This often goes for younger people also. It happens here all the time. In FL, you suddenly find yourself in your 70s or 80 and perhaps in failing health... and alone. Now this is what I read here and what I was told. I know Robert's mother died at 91 and didn't have one true friend when she died. She was very lonely there. She lived by a canal in Bradenton, not far from the airport in a 55+ community.

Are you over 65 and fully retired? Where did you meet these people who became real true friends? Not to get personal but what interests do you have in common with them? Keep in mind, friends and ending up alone in old age isn't the only reason we decided to keep this place as home base.

I am retired, but I am not as 65, I'm in my early 50s. I don't think that age matters as much as the willingness to put yourself out there and engage. Getting really involved in something, and that constant interaction being shoulder to shoulder in something for a while is what binds you to others. Be it a couple fishing partners, other relatives, new friends, friends doing art work, tennis, golfing, a wine group, gardening club, or cards. . . . If you don't engage you won't make close friends. If you only plan on staying a couple weeks - then you surely won't.

It doesn't matter really, you are making a decision that is right for you. I am sure that you will embrase your decision and love being able to come and go, travel, see the country, experience a wide variety of things, and return "home" where everything is right for you. . . I am sure there are 1000 unstated reasons that you have considered, and there isn't enough time to delve into all of it, things that will make the decision perfect for you.

I see elderly people here that have never put themselves out there, and engaged the community, the people around them, their neighbors, help others, create a common cause that binds you together in a way that "stuff" can't blow you apart. So, . . . if you have that fear, I understand what you are saying, but it does not have to be that way. We recently joined the civic association here in PGI and have joined a bunch of clubs and have begun interacting with a lot of people and making new friends there. That doesn't happen overnight - the friends I have here has taken a couple years now for me to say that we are friends. We have hit snags, and struggled, and worked through things and still we like each other and try to help when things don't go right. There is a certain commitment of steadfastness that is required to gain that type of friendship. I'm the type of person, that regarless of my age will always be like that, open and engaging. I'm still 32 at heart, and will be when I'm 75 - I just might not be able to down a 6 pack in 2 minutes.

[JViello]

Originally Posted by =^..^=

It may be a better place for you also. You already know all about it there so perhaps should have stayed there.


Are those who posted about how superficial friends are there among the RETIREES all lying? Why would people lie about such a thing? Are the people I spoke to who returned here to TN from FL also lying? Why would they lie? And yes (chuckle) there are indeed Gated communities and Deed restrictions in FL, not just AZ where you're from. Wow, you probably have never been to FL.



Who said I hated FL? How is a state taken advantage of? Please explain that little trick to me. Do you lack reading comprehension? I said it's not the place for me to move and gave the reasons why. If you don't agree with those reasons that's your problem.



You poor pathetic thing. Cat people are not like you at all, thank God.

Huh? WHAT are you talking about? Your entire reply to me is incoherent and totally unrelated to what was said.

Do you have some kind of disorder? I'm serious, and not trying to be mean. I don't want to pick on someone who is disabled in some way and/or at least understand why your post is so convoluted.

Reading comprehension? Are you serious? Have you looked in the mirror? I never lived in AZ, and barely visited the place. I was born and raised in CT, lived in the South for 7 years and am now considering going back.

I'm pathetic? Did you really just say that? You know me? I wonder what my wife and kids would say about what you just called their father/husband. That's pretty sad. Have you read the TOS?

[faithfulFrank]

I think a few folks here need to re-read the TOS.
Drop the personal jabs now or the thread will be closed.
Time for some of that "faith, hope and charity" I see in a status.....

People talk to each other on forums and they get mis-understood. Some post in a way they would never, ( I hope) speak to each other face to face.

Final warning.....

Frank

[JViello]

Originally Posted by faithfulFrank

I think a few folks here need to re-read the TOS.
Drop the personal jabs now or the thread will be closed.
Time for some of that "faith, hope and charity" I see in a status.....

People talk to each other on forums and they get mis-understood. Some post in a way they would never, ( I hope) speak to each other face to face.

Final warning.....

Frank

Agreed. I really am confused about the reply. It just doesn't make sense, and I'm trying to figure it out. It's like saying I have a red kite and then getting a reply that I hate blue kites. Huh? What?

Outright calling someone pathetic is a bit over the top.

[faithfulFrank]

A good rule to go by here is to discuss the TOPIC but not the poster.
Again, this is a good subject. It would be a bummer to have to close yet another good thread because of rude posting.....

Frank

[Foxrivman1]

BH was that a six pack of Yengling?? LOL