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The guest list was easy, don't get me started on the seating chart.
HOW ABOUT IT!!!!
I just spent hours upon hours working on it.... and then my in laws ABSOLUTELY HAD TO at the last minute invite their across the street neighbors. I say fine, as we had more declines from my side of the family than I expected. I put two of them in a table with people I felt would fit (from the same town, etc).... and then find out they're bringing their THREE adult daughters despite being told on the invitation that TWO seats were reserved! not five.
I just spent hours upon hours working on it.... and then my in laws ABSOLUTELY HAD TO at the last minute invite their across the street neighbors. I say fine, as we had more declines from my side of the family than I expected. I put two of them in a table with people I felt would fit (from the same town, etc).... and then find out they're bringing their THREE adult daughters despite being told on the invitation that TWO seats were reserved! not five.
Ten days to go.....
I know people who had an amazing wedding. It was 100% BYOB and Specified food. Bride and groom rented a tent and tables. Other friends acted as waiters. The groom is a musician and had friends on many bands. Three bands played in the wedding for free. It was a great party! And they had a seating chart.
I know people who had an amazing wedding. It was 100% BYOB and Specified food. Bride and groom rented a tent and tables. Other friends acted as waiters. The groom is a musician and had friends on many bands. Three bands played in the wedding for free. It was a great party! And they had a seating chart.
You are correct! But, in the eyes of my sister this maneuver seems normal.
My sister is very well off and would be offended if i sent her money.
Should they disinvite my sister?
I think it is tacky to exclude your sister's daughter...she is your son's first cousin....It may not be proper etiquette, but it isn't a formal wedding either. Just shows your son is marrying a controlling person, since the bride doesn't like the cousin, so she isn't invited.
I think it is tacky to exclude your sister's daughter...she is your son's first cousin....It may not be proper etiquette, but it isn't a formal wedding either. Just shows your son is marrying a controlling person, since the bride doesn't like the cousin, so she isn't invited.
I agree that it may be tacky, but the OP never said how many first cousins were involved.
Although, my situation (as I mentioned earlier if the thread) was certainly not typical but if I had invited all of my first cousins, plus their spouses and their children it would have literally doubled the size of my wedding from 80 people to over 160 people (if they had all showed up). Instead we just invited the cousins who were children or teen living at home with their parents.
I agree that it may be tacky, but the OP never said how many first cousins were involved.
Although, my situation (as I mentioned earlier if the thread) was certainly not typical but if I had invited all of my first cousins, plus their spouses and their children it would have literally doubled the size of my wedding from 80 people to over 160 people (if they had all showed up). Instead we just invited the cousins who were children or teen living at home with their parents.
Same here. We wanted a small, intimate wedding and just first cousins, their spouses and kids (because they all live long distance so it wasn't a situation of getting a sitter for an evening) would have added another 55 people. We took the all or nothing approach since it seemed less "offensive" to exclude all instead of picking and choosing.
What stinger? It is a valid question since you mentioned how well off your sister is.
Yeah, I said my sister was well off, but that is no reason to justify unsavory comments. IN any event, not problems on my side, this is the internet. And here people say what they would never say in person.
I think it is tacky to exclude your sister's daughter...she is your son's first cousin....It may not be proper etiquette, but it isn't a formal wedding either. Just shows your son is marrying a controlling person, since the bride doesn't like the cousin, so she isn't invited.
Not fair to say that about any bride that is caught up in the planning of a wedding. From what I here it is not always easy. I now realize it is their wedding and they can do anything they want.
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