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Unless you have an attorney, a board that will hear your complain and review all facts or have a union to go to, your best bet is to be looking for a new job. In political job environments, supervisors may have a very good relationship with their bosses and nothing is done and the burden of proof is left with the subordinate.
The supervisor is a bully. But crafty, no doubt she has made the OP's husband miserable in many subtle ways. The guy is really in a lose/lose situation for him. He either kowtows to the bullying, which will escalate it...all he can do is the EEO claim, or mediation, but it won't fix the problems...
This is how work place bullying can destroy lives...been there, lived it...sorry you are experiencing this.
I went through a similar problem in 1994 only I am male and the manager was male too. Let me tell you what is going to happen if you go to HR, dept of labor or whoever you go to and complain. Your husband is going to be fired and NOTHING will be done to the manager. Oh, and don't worry, they will have themselves covered on his firing too. No matter how good a job he does, how important he thinks he is and how many awards he has, it doesn't matter. These companies ALWAYS protect their managers and not the employee.
Sadly. the best thing he can do is bite his tongue and start sending resume's out immediately. He can vent in his exit interview but it won't do any good either. It's sad, but this goes on every day in corporate america and the one on the receiving end of the treatment is never the winner here. Good luck.
Yeah, it's interesting. I think this response has a lot of truth to it. It's almost like we are put into difficult situations and the challenge is to really NOT respond the way we'd like, but to accept the BS and move on. I am struggling with that right now, having just quit a job where I was being forced to quit. I am relieved I am out of there, but I still wonder if I can do anything to report them or document their unethical behavior. Lawyers have told me I don't have anything they can grab onto, yet I know what I experienced. It was awful. I want peace around this, and to see that they don't do this to someone else. Wishful thinking.
Yeah, it's interesting. I think this response has a lot of truth to it. It's almost like we are put into difficult situations and the challenge is to really NOT respond the way we'd like, but to accept the BS and move on. I am struggling with that right now, having just quit a job where I was being forced to quit. I am relieved I am out of there, but I still wonder if I can do anything to report them or document their unethical behavior. Lawyers have told me I don't have anything they can grab onto, yet I know what I experienced. It was awful. I want peace around this, and to see that they don't do this to someone else. Wishful thinking.
I think I ran into this with my last job. Looking back I might have been pressured to resign for possibly illegal reasons but I have no documentation to prove it. Out here labor law is almost never enforced unless it's a real egregious offense. This kind of crap goes on all the time all over. I think that there needs to be more enforcement of the law and better laws to boot. No wonder so many people get sick of it and go out on their own.
I read your post and i could not help but notice the simularitys of the situation i am currently involved in . I am a supervisor at a hotel where i live. When i first started i was a housekeeper then moved up. There is an employee at my job who i assume feels threatened by me she as well is a supervisor. Since my promotion she has done nothing but make my work expierence horrible. She constantlybfinds things to tell my general manager..i have witnesses they say she has told them she dose not like me and she is "gunning" for me. My general manager is not a very good leader she also involves herself in the drama and gossip that revolves around my work place.instead of taking charge and executing the problem she promotes it. I love my job and i have worked so hard and made so many sacrifices for my job. I have never missed a day of work or been late. But i am getting the imprresion that dose not matter. Its more her word over mine. Im tired of the whispers, and the stares. And the harrasment i am exposed to at work what can i do to make this stop.
I read your post and i could not help but notice the simularitys of the situation i am currently involved in . I am a supervisor at a hotel where i live. When i first started i was a housekeeper then moved up. There is an employee at my job who i assume feels threatened by me she as well is a supervisor. Since my promotion she has done nothing but make my work expierence horrible. She constantlybfinds things to tell my general manager..i have witnesses they say she has told them she dose not like me and she is "gunning" for me. My general manager is not a very good leader she also involves herself in the drama and gossip that revolves around my work place.instead of taking charge and executing the problem she promotes it. I love my job and i have worked so hard and made so many sacrifices for my job. I have never missed a day of work or been late. But i am getting the imprresion that dose not matter. Its more her word over mine. Im tired of the whispers, and the stares. And the harrasment i am exposed to at work what can i do to make this stop.
All you can do is not react to this person's drama and rise above it best you can since it looks like this person is definitely targeting your job. Good luck, just ignore the drama as much as possible. I don't know if you have someone else (another higher manager) at your company you can go to about your concerns, but if you do, just do that with caution.
I read your post and i could not help but notice the simularitys of the situation i am currently involved in . I am a supervisor at a hotel where i live. When i first started i was a housekeeper then moved up. There is an employee at my job who i assume feels threatened by me she as well is a supervisor. Since my promotion she has done nothing but make my work expierence horrible. She constantlybfinds things to tell my general manager..i have witnesses they say she has told them she dose not like me and she is "gunning" for me. My general manager is not a very good leader she also involves herself in the drama and gossip that revolves around my work place.instead of taking charge and executing the problem she promotes it. I love my job and i have worked so hard and made so many sacrifices for my job. I have never missed a day of work or been late. But i am getting the imprresion that dose not matter. Its more her word over mine. Im tired of the whispers, and the stares. And the harrasment i am exposed to at work what can i do to make this stop.
Sorry you are going through this! I would document everything as it happens with her-dates, times, witnesses. Maybe even consider going to the HR person and your supervisor with this and let them in on what is happening. If you do get let go at least you'll have details of the process that led up to it.
Re the OP...wondering why no one recommended a class action lawsuit in this situation as she said many other male employees had gone through this with this manager?
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going through same situation
