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I would recommend that you concentrate on your career and channel all that sexual energy into enthusiasm for your job. There are a million people out there that you can "have amazing chemistry" with. Hormones makes people think/do crazy things. It might seem like she is "the one" right now, but I assure you that it is just that old "survival of the species" mechanism kicking in. Give it a pass.
While I am a big NCIS fan (watching it on USA now), I have to add an "it depends" to it.
I met my husband on the job. Also, nearly every job I have had in life has had either married spouses or people who were dating one another.
The key is maturity and an understanding upfront of what both sides want. If your career is more important than anything at this point and you know you probably couldn't survive a serious breakup I the workplace, then don't do it. If you both are mature adults who are at a place that can handle not just dating at work, but nosy co-workers getting in your business, then maybe.
Remember, at work, you're going to see one another quite often. Plus, It sounds like you may actually travel together as we'll. Do you think you can handle that much time together? How will your performance be viewed by managers and customers?
It sounds like you're already far gone in your feelings, but really try to take a step back and even talk about it with her. Try to set some agreed upon rules of behavior if you both decide to pursue a relationship.
None of this will be a guarantee that all will go smooth and things will be perfect either. My husband and I had an issue between us that had nothing to do with working together. We still had to deal with it on the job and, of course, the co-workers stay gossiping wondering what's going on.
We broke up for a while as I was allowing him to deal with some things. In that time, I changed companies (due to management issues). Neither of us are high drama people who like to argue and fight to put on a show for others. We stayed friends and I always trusted him as a confidante. Becoming scared that I was "getting away from him", he began to pursue me again as more than a friend. We eventually got married.
The big thing for us was mature behavior and communication. If that broke down between us in the work environment, then there was the potential for problems.
I'm a sucker for love and will wish you the best, but please be careful about pursuing this. Not sure how damaging this could be for you potentially. Try to take everything into consideration before moving forward.
Well, having read the information through this point in the thread I would also suggest you focus on your career plans/ travel desires. Often times the workplace since it is a significant amount of our live is where people meet others of like mind. From what you disclosed of her situation (child), past exchanges at Cmas party incident, etc... and career desire of being overseas in Latin America. Don't do it unless you have a very direct non romantic communicative conversation with her on what she wants out of life. Be sure she/ you are not mirroring (i.e. don't allow your current infatuation/ feelings) to cloud the reality of what a potential life would be like should you pursue one together.
In my work career I've seen a few office / workplace romances blossom into marriages. In both cases the individuals behaved in a very quiet, private respectable manner (even though most knew they were dating). One left the company within short times of each other to pursue separate carreers in another geographic location, the other they moved to different departments within company. So yes it can be done.
On the other hand, based on wanting to work overseas in Latin America in any of the countries mentioned, you may be wiser to search for a potential 'life match' while there as the cultural difference in the women will likely spoil you (if you get a chance to interact frequently) and you may possibly regret the current 'urge to merge' feelings.
Love comes first. Job second.
Seriously, meeting someone you really, really get along with and the chemistry is mutual, is pretty rare. It's foolish not to pursue it.
Everyone always thinks jobs are so important, but think about this: being in a mutually supportive relationship with a great spouse or partner, has a much more positive effect on your life, including your career and finances, than if you're with someone that is less compatible.
I really don't see what the porbelm is My wife and i meet when working;it happens all the time.That does not mean you can act porfessionally whe at work.Wew never has a problem ;so I don't see why you shuld have any if your mature.I also knew quite a few others who married after meeting at work.
I would suggest that you focus on your jobs. You both realize the problems, or you wouldn't be holding back already. Decide between you which one of you will be willing to sacrifice their professional position before you pursue any sort of liaison. Perhaps even get enough job experience that one of you can move to a different company.
And, since you two are obviously letting others know you are involved, be prepared for the fall out if something you work on together doesn't meet company standards....because you both may be scapegoated.
What a mess this could turn into. Review your company policies....and I hope you both are very sure before you jeopardize your careers.
Love comes first. Job second.
Seriously, meeting someone you really, really get along with and the chemistry is mutual, is pretty rare. It's foolish not to pursue it.
Everyone always thinks jobs are so important, but think about this: being in a mutually supportive relationship with a great spouse or partner, has a much more positive effect on your life, including your career and finances, than if you're with someone that is less compatible.
All true in a perfect world. But love don't pay the bills. Approach cautiously.
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