White people adopted by non-white parents.... (birth, African, biological, children)
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Are there any other white people out there that were adopted by non-white parents or just one non-white parent?
I am curious about this subject because I was adopted by a non-white man who my mother married shortly after my birth. After 25 years of life I see now how completely rare that situation is, though you often see white parents adopting non-white children. I did not meet my biological father until I was 19.
To those of you who have been in a similar situation as I, how did your bonding go with your adoptive parents/parent and did race play a role in your bonding with your parent/parents?
I was never able to bond with my adoptive father. A few years back I even paid a judge to return my name back to my mother's father's last name because I just never looked at the hispanic man my mother married (and is now divorced to) as a father. We were just too different in terms of hobbies, interests, values, and yes, color. I think people want to try to downplay the role that race plays in adoption, when it is a very real thing that can create very unique troubles for both the parents and children in the situation. At one time in my child hood I was even calling my adoptive father very racist names in retaliation to his discipline. This of course quickly landed me in a shrinks office for the entirety of 5th grade.
Today, I keep a cordial relationship with my adoptive father. We talk every few months or so. He knows I no longer share his name and he didn't ask why I changed it when I told him. His response was merely a "well, I am sure you have your reasons".
Anyone else out there adopted by non-white parents? Or are there any non-white parents out there that have adopted white children? Has race played any role in the connection you have with your children? Would you advise interracial adoption to other prospective parents?
Are there any other white people out there that were adopted by non-white parents or just one non-white parent?
I am curious about this subject because I was adopted by a non-white man who my mother married shortly after my birth. After 25 years of life I see now how completely rare that situation is, though you often see white parents adopting non-white children. I did not meet my biological father until I was 19.
To those of you who have been in a similar situation as I, how did your bonding go with your adoptive parents/parent and did race play a role in your bonding with your parent/parents?
I was never able to bond with my adoptive father. A few years back I even paid a judge to return my name back to my mother's father's last name because I just never looked at the hispanic man my mother married (and is now divorced to) as a father. We were just too different in terms of hobbies, interests, values, and yes, color. I think people want to try to downplay the role that race plays in adoption, when it is a very real thing that can create very unique troubles for both the parents and children in the situation. At one time in my child hood I was even calling my adoptive father very racist names in retaliation to his discipline. This of course quickly landed me in a shrinks office for the entirety of 5th grade.
Today, I keep a cordial relationship with my adoptive father. We talk every few months or so. He knows I no longer share his name and he didn't ask why I changed it when I told him. His response was merely a "well, I am sure you have your reasons".
Anyone else out there adopted by non-white parents? Or are there any non-white parents out there that have adopted white children? Has race played any role in the connection you have with your children? Would you advise interracial adoption to other prospective parents?
Hi, I know an AA poster on adoption.com adopted a CC son.
Also, I have read some articles by a CC lady who is now in her 40s or 50s who was adopted by a Japanese-American couple. I'll have a look and see if I can find our more. I believe she has a wonderful relationship with her parents.
Hi, I know an AA poster on adoption.com adopted a CC son.
Also, I have read some articles by a CC lady who is now in her 40s or 50s who was adopted by a Japanese-American couple. I'll have a look and see if I can find our more. I believe she has a wonderful relationship with her parents.
Are there any other white people out there that were adopted by non-white parents or just one non-white parent?
I am curious about this subject because I was adopted by a non-white man who my mother married shortly after my birth. After 25 years of life I see now how completely rare that situation is, though you often see white parents adopting non-white children. I did not meet my biological father until I was 19.
To those of you who have been in a similar situation as I, how did your bonding go with your adoptive parents/parent and did race play a role in your bonding with your parent/parents?
I was never able to bond with my adoptive father. A few years back I even paid a judge to return my name back to my mother's father's last name because I just never looked at the hispanic man my mother married (and is now divorced to) as a father. We were just too different in terms of hobbies, interests, values, and yes, color. I think people want to try to downplay the role that race plays in adoption, when it is a very real thing that can create very unique troubles for both the parents and children in the situation. At one time in my child hood I was even calling my adoptive father very racist names in retaliation to his discipline. This of course quickly landed me in a shrinks office for the entirety of 5th grade.
Today, I keep a cordial relationship with my adoptive father. We talk every few months or so. He knows I no longer share his name and he didn't ask why I changed it when I told him. His response was merely a "well, I am sure you have your reasons".
Anyone else out there adopted by non-white parents? Or are there any non-white parents out there that have adopted white children? Has race played any role in the connection you have with your children? Would you advise interracial adoption to other prospective parents?
Interesting topic. I know of one. A teen my teens age. One parent is bi-racial and the other AA. There are no problems. Only love!
Two posters so far have stated that they knew of other white children who were adopted by non-white families and that the family 'seemed' full of love, but I would rather get first hand accounts. Often, from the outside looking in there seems to be no problems. That is what so many would have guessed while watching my adoptive father and I when I was young. But the problems were very much there......
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