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yeah... it's a shame what people will spend money on to feel good about themselves. Nothing wrong with the finer things in life if you can afford them but too many times it's the poor or average joe overspending to feed their esteem.
I have a friend and his girlfriend is all about luxury items and convinced him to buy a Lexus. He keeps telling me I need a new car but my Chrysler 2000 is paid off and runs just fine. Don't get me wrong, his car is nice but the payments and gas are insane.
Felt, to me your argument is apples and grapefruits.
One can be frugal, but also can respect dress codes and don't go into an establishment dressed like a slob.
That's fair....I know they don't want to "lose" business, but when you let anyone I guess they don't see the big picture...
The big picture is that your not going to lose business based on how someone is dressed. If someone stays home because, we aren't enforcing a 50's style dress code then so be it. When a guest says something to me about how others are dressed I just chuckle to myself. We have bigger problems to worry about than if someone is dressed business casual.
That's fair....I know they don't want to "lose" business, but when you let anyone I guess they don't see the big picture...
Who would you want to keep out exactly?
I think the big picture is that most people want to be able to enjoy nice meals in comfort. Eating out is a much more common thing today than it was in the past. It's just not a big deal that you would get dressed up for. I'm sure some really nice restaurants would continue to do well with dress codes, but for the most part a dress code would drive away business.
lol. Dressing appropriately has nothing to do with pretention. It has to do with decorum and good grooming. And for some, personal style.
pretention is when someone is trying to convey something they aren't, i.e. carrying a recognizable label handbag they cannot afford, hoping that will convince others they have money.
Personal style is personal. And looking down your nose at someone because he does not share your personal style isn't very decorous. To me, manners are far more important than some lose definition of "decorum." Much rather a person in "sloppy dress" who is respectful of the wait staff, polite to his tablemates, and a generous tipper, than a "well-dressed" person who snarks about the clothes of people at other tables.
"Pretension - A claim to something, such as a privilege or right." The claim here is that someone with a dressier sense of style should expect that from everyone else.
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Being casual but appropriate isn't stuffy nor is it uncomfortable. Sloppy is not attractive in any setting.
Again, these are matters of personal taste. Who decides what is appropriate? And many people don't care to be attractive. They just want to be comfortable and enjoy their meal.
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no one is trying to separate people into classes by requesting nice attire. If a person can afford to eat in any given restaurant, then who cares whether they are blue collar, white collar, Trustafarians or retired? No one.
Clothes are a shorthand for class.
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In the workplace, dressing appropriately depends on the nature of your job.
Pretentious or snobbish folks are no less pretentious or snobbish when naked, I have noticed.
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I might have to do some field work on this last theory.
Go to any other first world country (except for maybe Canada) and when you return the first thing you notice as soon as you step off the plane is that Americans are fat and slobs. We have dress codes now because they are needed. Years ago there were no such thing as dress codes because everyone's mother taught them how to dress properly.
Go to any other first world country (except for maybe Canada) and when you return the first thing you notice as soon as you step off the plane is that Americans are fat and slobs. We have dress codes now because they are needed. Years ago there were no such thing as dress codes because everyone's mother taught them how to dress properly.
Personal style is personal. And looking down your nose at someone because he does not share your personal style isn't very decorous. To me, manners are far more important than some lose definition of "decorum." Much rather a person in "sloppy dress" who is respectful of the wait staff, polite to his tablemates, and a generous tipper, than a "well-dressed" person who snarks about the clothes of people at other tables.
"Pretension - A claim to something, such as a privilege or right." The claim here is that someone with a dressier sense of style should expect that from everyone else.
Again, these are matters of personal taste. Who decides what is appropriate? And many people don't care to be attractive. They just want to be comfortable and enjoy their meal.
Clothes are a shorthand for class.
I might have to do some field work on this last theory.
COPED, you are the only person I know who can make a class war out of a dress code. Such a Bolshevik.
Let me know what you think once you have completed your field work, lol.
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