Mentality as a whole is very similar to Californians (live, area)

[AMPL]

Originally Posted by horace29

HAHA! Apparently I missed the boat on the "California mentality". In my contrary opinion, I would describe Californians as obsessed with the appearance of differentiating their own mentalities and behaviors as being superior, more "open-minded", more caring of social issues, and more arrogant about those perceived differences. On all counts the OP fits the bill of being a Californian. Simply by making the broad "I'm better than you" statement that you see people's mentality to be self-absorbed, airy, lack of caring for anything except themselves I think proves this point.

If they are not supposed to care about themselves, then out of curiosity, who the heck are they supposed to care about?? You? I imagine so. I'm sure you are interesting enough in your own mind that you believe this to be the case.

Maybe you should start caring a little bit more about yourself and less about how other people behave and how you can denigrate that behavior. Otherwise, you'll probably just go out and push for ridiculous laws to regulate other people so that you can make Colorado more like California... which apparently you for some reason dislike so much.

[CruisingUSA]

Originally Posted by downtownnola

True! Compared to the Northeast, the people in Denver are very friendly.

Yeah but the thing about people from the northeast; and this does not include everyone but many of the people I have met as a consequence of living in Florida for over 20 years, are a lot more open and real than people out here.

I want to know, what's your definition of friendly? Because I think most people have friendly and common courtesy mixed up. I don't find Denver to be at all 'friendly' by any stretch of the imagination. Because if it was I would have had a 'friend' by now after all these 8 months that I been here.

People here are friendly to who they want to be friendly with. Cliquey, as I would call it. Whereas in the northeast, they make friends with anyone regardless of whether they are Black, White, Hispanic, Asian. Even if the race happens to differ from their own.

Just because someone smiles and says hi to you at the store does not make them friendly. Just means they are using common courtesy and vice versa. It could even mean they are being fake. Artifical. Plastic. As in; putting on a front which I find people out here are very good at. We're talking about the long haul here.

OK, you just said hi to me at the store or you making all this conversation with me out in public, but what about taking it further than that? Are you going to treat me, the same way you are doing now once you get around your friends or are you going to turn your back and act like you don't know me? New Yorkers don't smile and say hi to strangers but they will make a way more loyal friend than any of these fake mid-western, Colorado people any day.

Don't ever call someone who's putting on a front friendly. Because that's the last thing that's on their mind is being your friend.

[PatanjaliTwist]

Originally Posted by cowboyxjon

Hey! I don't want to veer too far off topic, but I was surprised that you moved to the suburbs. I feel like you might be happier in Denver itself, in one of the neighborhoods closer to downtown, based on your interests and what you've said on the forum.

Glad that you like the people here, and good luck finding your niche!

I understand your point. Don't want to bogart the post, but I wanted a change. I'm liking the suburbs & sleeping better than I ever have because it's so quiet... experiencing another way of life has been very restful. Actually, I had no idea how sleep deprived I was all these years... this is nice! Next move, yes, there's more for me in the city... so that's probably where I'll go... who knows?

CO is cool... I like the people very much. But, I'm lucky & search out the good in anything. As I said, I find Californians lovely people, as well, contrary to what others have experienced.

Have fun...

[AllenSJC]

Originally Posted by cowboyxjon

A lot of people moved to Denver from California over the past few years. Maybe a lot of them moved to Parker?

I don't know what else to say, really. I think you can find people like this anywhere.

I agree with this. People from Orange County seem to like Douglas County especially, from my (admittedly limited) observations.

[dnvrsoul]

To the OP I'm sorry you feel this way...but Parker tends to have people that try to "keep up with the Jones" so to speak-you will find snobbiness everywhere. I noticed people keep saying how friendly Floridians are..NO THEY AREN"T-I work in S. Tampa the Parker of Florida..and you would think I live in Hollywood-get you nose out of the air you live in Tampa.
I lived in the burbs and I always enjoyed my time-not everyone in Colorado is snobby-

[formercalifornian]

Originally Posted by AMPL

We have lived in California for 3 years(just been back) and after being here for 1 year (we live in Parker CO) – we consider people’s mentality as a whole in these two states to be very similar. It is the same self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me, me - we feel a lot of times (To clarify, it is not all people that are like this, but neither is it in CA, but it is enough to be a trend). From talking with a lot of other people - we are definitely not alone with our opinion - we get that it has not always been like this, but it is getting worse by the minute. There are a lot of good things to say about Colorado - it is pretty obvious, but this is one opinion we never heard before we moved here and we want to let people know what we think about living here when they consider moving here. We do not intend to pi.. off people we just want to help others make a informed decision.

Complete and utter rubbish on all counts.

[JrzDefector]

Honestly? I think people are people throughout - largely the same. Cities are going to be less friendly just because the people you see every day aren't always the same - in a small town you have a vested interest in being friendly because if you're not, it can come back to haunt you. Not so much in a big city. I always look at polls about "friendliest city" or whatever with a jaundiced eye. Philly ranked low on one of those polls - and a week after reading about it, I was walking down the street checking a map, and a car full of young people came to a halt next to me and asked if I needed help finding something. I really believe it just depends on what crowd you fall in with.

[BlueWillowPlate]

Originally Posted by JrzDefector

I always look at polls about "friendliest city" or whatever with a jaundiced eye. .... I really believe it just depends on what crowd you fall in with.

YES.
Thing is, I think Denver itself is becoming more crowded, but it's very true that the group of people you find yourself in might have an effect on your perspective.

Originally Posted by dnvrsoul

I noticed people keep saying how friendly Floridians are..NO THEY AREN"T-I work in S. Tampa the Parker of Florida..and you would think I live in Hollywood-get you nose out of the air you live in Tampa.
I lived in the burbs and I always enjoyed my time-not everyone in Colorado is snobby-

And not everyone in Florida is snobby.

No doubt there are snobs in my little northeast FL town but I do not regularly run into them.

Some people are simply not happy unless everything and everybody can be safely categorized, but in my experience, for every "rule" there is bound to be an exception.

[dnvrsoul]

Originally Posted by BlueWillowPlate

YES.
Thing is, I think Denver itself is becoming more crowded, but it's very true that the group of people you find yourself in might have an effect on your perspective.

And not everyone in Florida is snobby.

No doubt there are snobs in my little northeast FL town but I do not regularly run into them.

Some people are simply not happy unless everything and everybody can be safely categorized, but in my experience, for every "rule" there is bound to be an exception.

Do you live in South Tampa? Well I work here and you have no idea how snobby 99% of people are...if they live in South Tampa they believe somehow they are "better" than everyone else...again I didn't say everyone I said 99%

[boston2denver]

Originally Posted by AMPL

....we consider people’s mentality as a whole in these two states to be very similar. It is the same self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me, me - we feel a lot of times (To clarify, it is not all people that are like this, but neither is it in CA, but it is enough to be a trend).

Originally Posted by AMPL

...People in Boston will be unpleasant towards people that seem weak - if they feel you are slow and are an inconvenience to them - you will know it - no tolerance.

Originally Posted by AMPL

....Don't move to Denver area for down to earth and laid-back people:-).

Originally Posted by AMPL

Coloradogirl1: We moved to the Boston area 1.5 years ago and we regret moving here – and we cannot wait for the economy to become better – we will be out of here.

Originally Posted by AMPL

In what areas around Boston do you find the least and most self obsessed drivers on the road? I have experienced that drivers on I-93 south and the Mass pike tend to be more pushy and impatient (tailgating and weaving in and out of the lanes) than drivers north of Boston on for example I-93north.

It sounds like you need a beer. Actually you sound more like a single malt scotch type. Maybe you don't drink. Perhaps introducing some meditation into your daily life will do the trick.