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my fiance died two years ago of cancer in a hospice.
i don't know enough about the opioids and their side effects to understand the changes in his behavior
when i last visited him. how often do the staff administer the pain medication?
the first time i visited him, he started talking distractedly and angrily to himself. i chalked it up to the opioids
and let him know "i just keep in mind it can be the medication talking' to reassure him for the next time.
i noticed the schedule went from 7am-7pm PST on weekdays; opioids were given around each meal time.
on the weekend i last visited him, the hours were 7am-5pm PST. i arrived around 4:45 pm (i live in another
county and have to commute there).
when i entered the room, he was delighted, recognized me. a little while later, he responded to casual
remarks in a somewhat surprised way.
he had back pain and wanted to be shifted to the side, so i let him know i would alert the staff.
the staff came, but didn't do what he wanted, and then rushed out again.
i was sitting across from him, and gently blew him a kiss. he did the same.
suddenly, his eyes grew very wide, he looked bewildered, then very angry.
he pulled himself abruptly over to the side of the wall, grabbed the curtain
around the bed, and didn't come out from behind or make any sounds.
a while later, he fell asleep. i gently touched his arm, kissed his cheek, and told him how much i loved him
before i left.
my fiance died two years ago of cancer in a hospice.
i don't know enough about the opioids and their side effects to understand the changes in his behavior
when i last visited him. how often do the staff administer the pain medication?
the first time i visited him, he started talking distractedly and angrily to himself. i chalked it up to the opioids
and let him know "i just keep in mind it can be the medication talking' to reassure him for the next time.
i noticed the schedule went from 7am-7pm PST on weekdays; opioids were given around each meal time.
on the weekend i last visited him, the hours were 7am-5pm PST. i arrived around 4:45 pm (i live in another
county and have to commute there).
when i entered the room, he was delighted, recognized me. a little while later, he responded to casual
remarks in a somewhat surprised way.
he had back pain and wanted to be shifted to the side, so i let him know i would alert the staff.
the staff came, but didn't do what he wanted, and then rushed out again.
i was sitting across from him, and gently blew him a kiss. he did the same.
suddenly, his eyes grew very wide, he looked bewildered, then very angry.
he pulled himself abruptly over to the side of the wall, grabbed the curtain
around the bed, and didn't come out from behind or make any sounds.
a while later, he fell asleep. i gently touched his arm, kissed his cheek, and told him how much i loved him
before i left.
he died the next afternoon at 4:30 pm PST.
I'm sorry for your loss, but this has nothing to do with the Bay Area.
So sorry for your loss...
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Podo944,
Thank you so much for the input about how to post--i'm new to this site. so far, just logging in, entering the subject matter and clicking on areas where the subject would apply per people who post. somewhat confusing (i still don't know how to use the Edit function for any typos).
Welcome to this little corner of the forums. You'll find the folks here kind and knowledgeable. Mood shifts as you describe are not uncommon.
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