Can my dad kick me out in 2 days? (house, bankrupt)

[Rivertowntalk]

Is there a storage area at your Dad's house? If so, ask him if you can move some of your stuff into the storage area, or basement possibly. Maybe a closet or attic will have some space. Do what you can to move your stuff to where it is out of his direct sight. Next, take only what personal items you need and when you get a place to stay, keep talking to him and then arrange to come back for the other items later. Moving out is overdue for you and it will be the best thing for you and your relationship with your father. Don't entirely disconnect from him.

[Okey Dokie]

you are in a domestic violence situation. Get. Out. Now.

[Rakin]

It's been 3 days an OP has not returned.

He can sleep in his car if needed till he can get a room at the Y.

[Rakin]

Originally Posted by Okey Dokie

you are in a domestic violence situation. Get. Out. Now.

A slap in the face is not Domestic violence between 2 full grown men.

[Tourian]

Originally Posted by Rakin

A slap in the face is not Domestic violence between 2 full grown men.

The OP is a woman.

Either way, she needs to pack quickly and get out of a very bad situation.

[KRKS]

Everyone's feedback was welcome and helpful. I was able to talk with him more calmly about the topic Sunday night with his new wife (not my mom but I don't relate to her as a step mother seeing as she is younger than me...) being a mediator. He took back the statement of me being kicked out. We are back to normal (whatever that means) and I'm going to be using this time to get my ducks in a row to get out. I should have left a long time ago.

I want to thank everyone for their comments and give them a response.

Originally Posted by Meemur

Since you're 22, you probably don't have any legal recourse, unless you want to call the police and press charges about him hitting you. That might gain you some time if they haul him off to jail.

Do you have some friends or co-workers who could help you pack?

I do NOT want to press charges. I know he is having a rough time right now and I don't want to add any extra stress.

Originally Posted by maggiekate

I think he needs to give you longer since you have been living there with is OK. Just be super polite and ask for a longer time.

This is close to what worked. He doesn't realize that I still plan on moving out though. I have to take care of everything he can hold me back with first.

Originally Posted by Gunluvver2

It is too bad your generation and maybe two before yours have been taught all about "YOUR RIGHTS" during your school years and nothing about RESPONSIBILITIES. One Bible verse says something about spare the rod, spoil the child. You missy are the perfect example of that verse.

Also another example of the evil Facebook can create.

You are welcome to your opinion but this is just hurtful. I believe that it is everyone's right to not be slapped, not just mine. All I was trying to find was a way to have a few more days to move my things out.

Originally Posted by CrownVic95

Are you paying any rent? If so, you have to same right to proper notice that any other tenant would have.

And you may have that right even without rent if you have lived there long term with his approval. That aspect of Kansas law should be a fairly simple web search. Or you could check with the police - they would know.

I wouldn't say that I pay a constant rent amount. More like, I help with bills or other random expenses that are not my own.

Originally Posted by CSD610

You should be packing instead of being on a public forum.

Any legal questions you have you need to ask an attorney, no one on this forum can give you legal advice.
Do some research on your own, contact an attorney, call the police or just pack your things and move.

Good point! But I figured if someone had an idea that could give me a few days that it would justify the 20 min I spent on the forum. I certainly didn't have time to get in contact with an attorney or do some research I thought this could be a good way to get ideas without spending a bunch of time I could be using to move.

Originally Posted by StreetLegal

You can judge this woman based on one post on C-D? Quit playing God. She stated she remained calm in the face of a heated argument. There is absolutely ZERO justification for striking a loved one unless it is in self-defense.

Why is it that Christian fundamentalists must swim in an Iron Age sea? Believing the Bible to be the literally perfect word of God, people like you sanctify fragments of culture from a time when our ancestors had yet to discover the spinning wheel or the simple lifesaving power of hand-washing.

When people elevate the bible on a pedestal, they lose their ability to think. Parents—meaning fathers—are elevated to the top of an ancient hierarchy in which position is power and might makes right. No thanks...not a world I want to live in.

Thank you.

Originally Posted by beasley106

I don't know the OP's back story but if her dad did hit/slap her (and this applies even more so if this is a regular occurrence), I would definitely look at moving out and perhaps cutting off all contact with him since it sound's like he is mentally unstable. There are plenty of domestic violence shelters that would probably take you in temporarily.

He is a brilliant and wonderful man 99% of the time. Honestly, he can be one of the kindest people I know at times. It's just the 1% where he becomes very upset and mean that is my issue. He is very verbally abusive during these times but seeing as I grew up with it I can handle that. Now that it has escalated to physical I can no longer handle it.

Originally Posted by GoColts

No he cannot just kick you out because legally you are protected because you are a tenant regardless of whether or not you pay rent (look up landlord/tenant laws in your state). You have to be evicted so you are entitled to some notice, 30 days for most states. My kids have had friends staying with us for short periods of time after arguments with parents and a friend of mine who is a lawyer warned me that if my guests are at my house too long then I won't be able to just ask them to leave. Do you have health insurance coverage under a parent's plan? They may be required to continue covering you even if you are not enrolled in school. I am not sure how Obama are works.

I was wondering about that, I figure I'd need a lawyer to know for sure.

Originally Posted by fluffythewondercat

I'm sure everything that followed that is completely truthful and contains no self-serving characterizations. Right?

Also, you did go to the ER after the previous fracas and was diagnosed with a concussion -- right? Then you filed a police report, just as you did every time for the "plenty of other things" you're hinting you could accuse him of.

Right?

I can only write from my point of view. I tried to make it truthful but obviously leaving out many details seeing as it is still a personal issue. I still believe it sums everything up fairly well however.

As far as the ER goes, no, I never visited a doctor. One, I had no money to go, and two, if I went I'd be expected to explain what happened. As I said in my original post I have no intention of getting my dad into any legal trouble. What would I possibly gain from that? I'm not a vengeful person and as I said in an earlier response he is 99% a wonderful guy. If this was his regular attitude I would probably take a very different stance.

Originally Posted by Rivertowntalk

Is there a storage area at your Dad's house? If so, ask him if you can move some of your stuff into the storage area, or basement possibly. Maybe a closet or attic will have some space. Do what you can to move your stuff to where it is out of his direct sight. Next, take only what personal items you need and when you get a place to stay, keep talking to him and then arrange to come back for the other items later. Moving out is overdue for you and it will be the best thing for you and your relationship with your father. Don't entirely disconnect from him.

More than anything it is the very large items I wouldn't be able to move. My room is as good as basement storage for that.

I agree that moving out is overdue. I don't want to disconnect with him, we've had a hard time recently but in the past he was one of my closest friends.

Originally Posted by Okey Dokie

you are in a domestic violence situation. Get. Out. Now.

Working on it. I do have some more time now thankfully.

Originally Posted by Rakin

It's been 3 days an OP has not returned.

He can sleep in his car if needed till he can get a room at the Y.

I'm sorry, I've been super busy. I was able to read peoples posts but didn't have time to sit and answer them until now.

Originally Posted by Rakin

A slap in the face is not Domestic violence between 2 full grown men.

I'm female. But I don't see how that makes a difference, one man beating up another is still domestic violence.

Originally Posted by Tourian

The OP is a woman.

Either way, she needs to pack quickly and get out of a very bad situation.

Packing now. Unfortunately I have to do so in a way that he doesn't perceive as moving out yet. Most of my bills are under his name still so I have to move them over to me. I DO pay him for those, but even with me paying he could really give me problems. He has a habit of making sure someone is somehow dependent on him so that he can threaten it if he gets mad. I have everything but my health insurance out from under him now and I'm working on fixing that.

[wintersbone]

Originally Posted by Gunluvver2

It is too bad your generation and maybe two before yours have been taught all about "YOUR RIGHTS" during your school years and nothing about RESPONSIBILITIES. One Bible verse says something about spare the rod, spoil the child. You missy are the perfect example of that verse.

Also another example of the evil Facebook can create.

oh please and what has your generation contributed to the world? let see bankrupt SS,no job security,no pensions all in the name of corporate greed.

Your money was spent 40 years ago we don't want to hear your complaining.

[Meemur]

OP, thanks for getting back to us and good luck with your move and getting on with your life.

I didn't get along with my father until I moved out. He wasn't a bad guy, but we just couldn't live under the same roof. It was so much easier when we only saw each other for a meal every few weeks.

[AnywhereElse]

We always get one side of the story here. You have a father, 22 year old daughter and a stepmother younger than the daughter living in the house together. Seriously, and this would go smoothly on what planet?

[KRKS]

Originally Posted by Meemur

OP, thanks for getting back to us and good luck with your move and getting on with your life.

I didn't get along with my father until I moved out. He wasn't a bad guy, but we just couldn't live under the same roof. It was so much easier when we only saw each other for a meal every few weeks.

I've lived peacefully with him for 22 years. It's hard to imagine my life without him frequently in it

Originally Posted by AnywhereElse

We always get one side of the story here. You have a father, 22 year old daughter and a stepmother younger than the daughter living in the house together. Seriously, and this would go smoothly on what planet?

Very true! We've tried to make it go smoothly but it is very difficult. I'm still very angry at his new wife for tearing my family but her and actually get along pretty well. She was actually one of my friends before my dad ever met her. The whole situation is very complicated.