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Bring a card with a blank check. After seeing what kind of setup it is you can write out the check there.
I went to a wedding once where it was a cash bar. The money I had to lay out for alcohol dipped into the gift.
If you can't afford to give your guests alcohol, don't have a bar at all. Of course that would probably limit the people who would attend, especially on Long Island, but that's not really the point of being there.
To adjust the gift dependent on what is given to the guests is ignorant, cheap and crude; life is not about keeping score. If you felt you "had to lay out for alcohol" anything at all, there might be bigger reasons to stay home.
If you can't afford to give your guests alcohol, don't have a bar at all. Of course that would probably limit the people who would attend, especially on Long Island, but that's not really the point of being there.
To adjust the gift dependent on what is given to the guests is ignorant, cheap and crude; life is not about keeping score. If you felt you "had to lay out for alcohol" anything at all, there might be bigger reasons to stay home.
No it's not!
I'm not giving the same amount of money I would normally give if the service wasn't up to my expectations.
If you can't afford to give your guests alcohol, don't have a bar at all. Of course that would probably limit the people who would attend, especially on Long Island, but that's not really the point of being there.
To adjust the gift dependent on what is given to the guests is ignorant, cheap and crude; life is not about keeping score. If you felt you "had to lay out for alcohol" anything at all, there might be bigger reasons to stay home.
Hm....my wedding didn't have free alcohol. We don't drink. So, we assumed nobody drinks. It's sunday 12-5pm wedding. We got couple bottle of wine and put it behind the bar just in case. And it was gone in first 30 mins......if I would have known people do drink sunday day time, I would just do open bar.
i agree. My wedding was at white castle. That philosophy is clearly the norm. I got so many cards with 5 and 10 bucks in them. One guy even gave me a coupon. It's insulting.
I think it depends on how fancy the wedding is, how close you are to the couple, and what you can afford. For my Brother's wedding my husband and I gave $400. Normally for two of us we give $200. I went to a couple of weddings with just my mom and I gave $100. When I got married the average money gift was $100-$200. I did get more than $200 from several close family members like my MIL, Mom, Uncle/Aunts, BIL/SIL. Cash is King.
Hm....my wedding didn't have free alcohol. We don't drink. So, we assumed nobody drinks. It's sunday 12-5pm wedding. We got couple bottle of wine and put it behind the bar just in case. And it was gone in first 30 mins......if I would have known people do drink sunday day time, I would just do open bar.
Never assume no one drinks on a Sunday. Alcohol should always be available if people want it unless Liquor was not included at your venue.
Hm....my wedding didn't have free alcohol. We don't drink. So, we assumed nobody drinks. It's sunday 12-5pm wedding. We got couple bottle of wine and put it behind the bar just in case. And it was gone in first 30 mins......if I would have known people do drink sunday day time, I would just do open bar.
Do you live in a cave?
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