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i notice a lot of people say 'there is no such thing as normal,' just because there's some oddballs in the world like myself or others.... but imo there is a such thing as normal: dating as a teen, dating/partying in college, getting married, having children. it's the reason you see this pattern played out all over societies and with different religions, backgrounds etc. not sure why people 'pretend there is no normal or standard' when clearly there is? if you veer far off the path of 'normal' they certainly notice, don't they? where do you stand on this.
i notice a lot of people say 'there is no such thing as normal,' just because there's some oddballs in the world like myself or others.... but imo there is a such thing as normal: dating as a teen, dating/partying in college, getting married, having children. it's the reason you see this pattern played out all over societies and with different religions, backgrounds etc. not sure why people 'pretend there is no normal or standard' when clearly there is? if you veer far off the path of 'normal' they certainly notice, don't they? where do you stand on this.
That is a societal normal, not a human normal.
In some countries, and in some cultures, teenagers are not allowed to "date." The Romani, for example - virginity is *expected* and women *are* virgins when they get married, period. And their husbands are typically picked for them by their families, and they are often married before they turn 16. And - once they are married, it is *normal* for them to live with their in-laws, and cook and clean and make babies and keep house for not only their husbands, but for their mother-in-law and father-in-law and all -their- unmarried children. Dating is not an option.
In some parts of Indian society, marriage is still arranged by the parents, the daughters do not get to veto a husband she doesn't want, and in fact, she is raised to not even realize that "wanting" and "not wanting" a particular husband isn't even something to think about.
In some parts of the MiddleEast, a man caught partying in college can be executed. A woman caught partying at all can be executed and her family fined.
So no, these things you mention aren't "normal." That's the wrong word for it. They're cultural norms, cultural standards. But they aren't universal, and so are not normal with regards to human psychology.
When you are communicating to other people, you should use words they understand.
Many people use the word normal to describe typical or average behavior. Or the condition we are in physically can be commonly described as "normal" or "not normal". Development of a child, etc.
Various professions have unique terms and phrases. Like legal, medical, mental health, electronics, etc. When you are in one of those fields and are talking to another person in that field, then you can communicate more precisely by using technical terms.
Anyway I would say it depends on who you are talking to.
FYI - I just went for a check-up at my doctor's office. He told me my blood tests were normal. I understood what he was talking about.
i notice a lot of people say 'there is no such thing as normal,' just because there's some oddballs in the world like myself or others.... but imo there is a such thing as normal: dating as a teen, dating/partying in college, getting married, having children. it's the reason you see this pattern played out all over societies and with different religions, backgrounds etc. not sure why people 'pretend there is no normal or standard' when clearly there is? if you veer far off the path of 'normal' they certainly notice, don't they? where do you stand on this.
If you are using the term "normal" as a statistical term, then yes, there is such a thing as normal . . .
Otherwise, no. There are too many variables (oops- another statistical reference!)
Every single human is special. There is no such thing as a "normal" someone or comrade -- try to see it that way. There are mainstream people, or average people, but they are just as normal as eccentric people are, although it might not seem that way! Really, God created us all and we are all special and different from each other. We are not sheep in a flock.
I think there is a way of life and behavior that's considered "normal" in each society, but if someone was "normal" in every aspect of their life, well, that wouldn't be normal! Some people fall so far outside what's supposed to be normal that they can't even function, or commit horrible crimes, etc, so that's pretty obvious. With other people it might not be as obvious that some aspect of their life is out of whack with what normal is supposed to be, especially if they try to appear they're conforming to the normal. But if there really is someone out there that doesn't have ANY "abnormal" traits... well that would be weird. And the more I see of people, the less I believe that person exists.
By normal I mean, no particular quirks, kinks, disabilities, or fears. Two arms two legs, good health. No criminal record. Average intelligence.
Nothing that threatens a normal lifestyle...by which I mean, get up, go to work, come home, go to bed. Repeat.
I have a car, a house, a couple of kids and a couple of pets. I'm not mean to anyone and I mind my own business.
Well then - you are most definitely NOT normal, by anyone's standards that I'm aware of (maybe some obscure tribe of indigenous peoples of Alaska? Someone would have to google it and it's too early in the morning for me).
Normal people around here, have fears. Some of them fear spiders. Some (like myself) fear heights that have sharp drops (like standing on top of a ladder). Some are afraid of death, some of failure.
Normal people around here, have quirks. I play text games on the internet. My sister has four cats. My next door neighbor is deaf, the neighbor on the other side of the house thinks it's fun to ride his ATV in circles around his back yard.
And we all live in a normal neighborhood and consider ourselves and each other to be within the range of "normal."
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