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Greetings! I am going through a divorce (together 25 years) and am devastated and practically paralyzed by depression and sadness.
In researching online about what I am feeling and upon much reflection of my life up to this point - am 47 - is I am clearly dealing with abandonment issues and trauma from the divorce and early childhood has been driving much of adult behavior both professionally and personally.
I found the symptoms described online:
Symptoms may be physical or mental including:
Alienation from the environment - withdrawal from social activities, resistance towards others.
Guilt - believes that he/she did something wrong that caused the abandonment (often associated with depression).
Fear and uncertainty - "clinginess", insecurities.
Sleep and eating disorders - malnutrition, starvation, disturbed sleep, nightmares.
Physical ailments - fatigue, drug and alcohol abuse, anxiety, depression, lack of energy and creativity, anger, grief.
That's me.
My question to is to those have been through the healing process. What did you do? What worked for you? What didn't? Suggestions for treatment?
Thank you for your replies.
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Greetings! I am going through a divorce (together 25 years) and am devastated and practically paralyzed by depression and sadness.
In researching online about what I am feeling and upon much reflection of my life up to this point - am 47 - is I am clearly dealing with abandonment issues and trauma from the divorce and early childhood has been driving much of adult behavior both professionally and personally.
I found the symptoms described online:
Symptoms may be physical or mental including:
Alienation from the environment - withdrawal from social activities, resistance towards others. Guilt - believes that he/she did something wrong that caused the abandonment (often associated with depression). Fear and uncertainty - "clinginess", insecurities. Sleep and eating disorders - malnutrition, starvation, disturbed sleep, nightmares. Physical ailments - fatigue, drug and alcohol abuse, anxiety, depression, lack of energy and creativity, anger, grief.
That's me.
My question to is to those have been through the healing process. What did you do? What worked for you? What didn't? Suggestions for treatment?
Thank you for your replies.
join a support group I am a recovering alcoholic/ adult child of an alcoholic
there are some great 12 step programs out there
it was hard to face this stuff but well worth it!!
Al anon too is wonderful if you have ever been effected by someone else's drinking
I have been in recovery for over 16 years it is a process not an event
check them out and see where you fit!!
Feel free to send me a private message I am happy to share with you
good luck!
Sorry, but you will be miserable for 6 months. So might as well sit down and be miserable!
But the good news is time heals all wounds.
After 6 months or so, things start to pick up a bit. Maybe a stranger will say hi or something - make you feel good. So then try going out and meeting some new people.
I'm sorry to hear of your divorce and the pain you are going through. I've been through it and can empathise with you, having experienced the same pain. I don't have any useful advice because I didn't handle it very well. I had an additional burden added when my son took his life.
This began to drive me into depression so I increased my medication to the max. That helped but I was not making progress. What did help was a 'natural' antidepressant in the form of raw cashews (clinically shown to be as effective as prozac). Avocado seems to have made a difference too.
Just recently I have started taking a GABA boosting supplement (L-Theanine) and after a few days I seem to be free from anxiety and depression and my energy level is up a little but no miracles but comparing myself now to just two weeks ago, there is a significant improvement. So I will suggest good nutrition, cutting out sugar and refined carbs and taking therapeutic supplements.
Good sleep is essential, something I was not getting. One of my medications is a sleep promoting drug (doxypin - old school). Also cut out stimulants like coffee. I can't speak for medications but if you are depressed and stressed then you likely need help.
All the best to you,
Take care
303Guy
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