where to meet nice guys in Miami???? (apartment, homes)

[WINTERFRONT]

Originally Posted by mailyn

germans? you lost me there

^^^^ The name of a barbarian tribe living in central yurop... they take pride on their sausages and beer.

[tallrick]

Nice guys finish last. Why do people try so hard to "meet" someone only to complain about them later.

[mailyn]

lol winterfront

tallrick I think that's harsh and stereotypical. I know/have known plenty of nice guys. they just happen to be married, especially in my age range. I can say the same thing about guys wanting a barely legal girl that's hot rather than your average nice girl. I also see a lot of guys bashing Miami women for being gold diggers but, guess what? TONS of men down here are only after those barely legal extremely hot girls I was talking about AND those that aren't are looking for sex only.

I am being stereotypical too but that's a lot of what I've seen down here and, reading this forum, it makes me mad at how many posts/posters are completely bashing Miami women as if the "majority (as they say)" of the men down here are any better.

I KNOW there are nice guys here. there has to be, I just don't know where they would hang out, etc.

[Michael Di Meo]

Originally Posted by mailyn

lol winterfront

tallrick I think that's harsh and stereotypical. I know/have known plenty of nice guys. they just happen to be married, especially in my age range. I can say the same thing about guys wanting a barely legal girl that's hot rather than your average nice girl. I also see a lot of guys bashing Miami women for being gold diggers but, guess what? TONS of men down here are only after those barely legal extremely hot girls I was talking about AND those that aren't are looking for sex only.

I am being stereotypical too but that's a lot of what I've seen down here and, reading this forum, it makes me mad at how many posts/posters are completely bashing Miami women as if the "majority (as they say)" of the men down here are any better.

I KNOW there are nice guys here. there has to be, I just don't know where they would hang out, etc.

I would think that the best way would be to have a set of goals that you want to accomplish, and then achieve those goals. If any of the goals require you to interface with society, I bet you would end up meeting someone. Just don't do activities just because you think it will help you meet people - instead do things because you want to. You need to have the attitude that it does not matter if you meet anyone or not, you have goals you want to achieve and that is what you will do.

I am in your desired age range, but I have a GF. We are not really serious, we're more like friends with benefits, but we've been together for 2.5 years, and she has kids from a previous marriage, so although we spend time together, I also have a lot of time alone. So, I set goals for myself. I want to buy a house (I am still renting), and basically that's my main goal. My secondary goal is to get some post-graduate certifications in my field, to better my career, blah blah blah. There are a lot of goals I have too many to go into here. But, I am doing those for me - not for anyone else. My GF has a house, so she does not need me to buy one for her, it's just what I want, and if in the process of doing all of these things I meet someone with whom I can have a "serious" relationship, then so be it.

By the way, I met my sexy GF at MDC taking some adult education classes just for fun at the Wolfson campus. 2.5 years later we still smile about it.

[mailyn]

I don't know exactly what you mean by goals. I was done with school ages ago and have my degree. I go out, a lot, just can't seem to find people like I'm talking about. I go to clubs to just dance with my friends. I go to the movies, I go out to eat, hang out at places like B&N and Starbucks because I think they are really cool places to pass the time. I don't need to buy a house. I have one which I share with my mother who lost her job (they said cut back, I said bs, it was her age) so I pay for 90% of the bills heres. I go to the theater (we love ballet and other stuff - saw Beauty and the Beast musical when it came back in December! that was a lot of fun hehehe)

I'm not sure which goals I should be thinking about now. I've also taken language classes for fun but it's been students that I've had as classmates.

All in all, I NEVER do stuff to meet people. I do them because I LOVE them. I just would have hoped that by now I would have run into a guy that wants more than just casual sex or a hot jailbait.

[TheHurricaneKid]

I don't know anything much about your dating age crowd, I do know it's a bit difficult to find good people in general, since Miami's social venues don't attract those kind of people. If you want to find a manly gentleman for your age, just face reality and deal with this kind of difficulty while living in this city.

By deal, I mean keep looking and don't lower your standards, because the way you described your standards in your post probably means that you will be looking for a long time.

[mailyn]

Originally Posted by TheHurricaneKid

I don't know anything much about your dating age crowd, I do know it's a bit difficult to find good people in general, since Miami's social venues don't attract those kind of people. If you want to find a manly gentleman for your age, just face reality and deal with this kind of difficulty while living in this city.

By deal, I mean keep looking and don't lower your standards, because the way you described your standards in your post probably means that you will be looking for a long time.

No worries, standards will not be lowered. I refuse to settle for a guy that isn't nice and isn't a slob

[Michael Di Meo]

Originally Posted by mailyn

I don't know exactly what you mean by goals. I was done with school ages ago and have my degree. I go out, a lot, just can't seem to find people like I'm talking about. I go to clubs to just dance with my friends. I go to the movies, I go out to eat, hang out at places like B&N and Starbucks because I think they are really cool places to pass the time. I don't need to buy a house. I have one which I share with my mother who lost her job (they said cut back, I said bs, it was her age) so I pay for 90% of the bills heres. I go to the theater (we love ballet and other stuff - saw Beauty and the Beast musical when it came back in December! that was a lot of fun hehehe)

I'm not sure which goals I should be thinking about now. I've also taken language classes for fun but it's been students that I've had as classmates.

All in all, I NEVER do stuff to meet people. I do them because I LOVE them. I just would have hoped that by now I would have run into a guy that wants more than just casual sex or a hot jailbait.

So, you don't have any more major personal or professional goals you want to achieve?

[TheHurricaneKid]

Originally Posted by mailyn

No worries, standards will not be lowered. I refuse to settle for a guy that isn't nice and isn't a slob

If only the younger women in Miami were like you...

Well, if you don't want a slob, I suggest you join the gym and mingle with the guys there, although be forewarned that the guys there usually are the type that are looking for an easy woman.

[popcorn247]

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