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Old 05-16-2019, 09:26 PM
 
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Please help!! I’m dating a man from a Minnesota. I know he likes me a lot, but when it comes to express his feelings verbally, he kills me because he says things like: “I appreciate you very much”. To me, he’s beautiful! He says I’m too kind. He doesn’t like to talk about things that stress him on a daily basis. He says he doesn’t want to talk about it. He says “I like you a lot” looking down. In person we eat up one another. By text... he’s monosyllabic. He keeps saying: “I’m a very reserved person”.
I’m Hispanic and he calls me exotic. Believe me, I’m not. I’m from NYC. People say I’m gorgeous, but maybe they just find me different. He says I’m exotic because he never saw anyone like me where he grew up.

I adore this guy. It’s just so hard to learn about him and to have him say how he feels. I’m actually crazy for him. He doesn’t let me go but he is too cold in the way he says things. I’m so expressive and emotional. I need people, men from Minnesota to tell me if this is normal or what?

Help!!!
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Old 05-17-2019, 12:53 AM
 
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Please help!! I’m dating a man from a Minnesota. I know he likes me a lot, but when it comes to express his feelings verbally, he kills me because he says things like: “I appreciate you very much”. To me, he’s beautiful! He says I’m too kind. He doesn’t like to talk about things that stress him on a daily basis. He says he doesn’t want to talk about it. He says “I like you a lot” looking down. In person we eat up one another. By text... he’s monosyllabic. He keeps saying: “I’m a very reserved person”.
I’m Hispanic and he calls me exotic. Believe me, I’m not. I’m from NYC. People say I’m gorgeous, but maybe they just find me different. He says I’m exotic because he never saw anyone like me where he grew up.

I adore this guy. It’s just so hard to learn about him and to have him say how he feels. I’m actually crazy for him. He doesn’t let me go but he is too cold in the way he says things. I’m so expressive and emotional. I need people, men from Minnesota to tell me if this is normal or what?

Help!!!
Where did he grow up> What City? Minneapolis?
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Old 05-17-2019, 06:33 AM
 
Location: Twin Cities
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It’s normal. We are not a gregarious people but that doesn’t mean we can’t form deep, lasting relationships. Verbalization is just one method of expressing emotion. Take the expression “actions speak louder than words” to heart and it will all be fine.
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Old 05-17-2019, 10:24 AM
 
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Please help!! I’m dating a man from a Minnesota. I know he likes me a lot, but when it comes to express his feelings verbally, he kills me because he says things like: “I appreciate you very much”. To me, he’s beautiful! He says I’m too kind. He doesn’t like to talk about things that stress him on a daily basis. He says he doesn’t want to talk about it. He says “I like you a lot” looking down. In person we eat up one another. By text... he’s monosyllabic. He keeps saying: “I’m a very reserved person”.
I’m Hispanic and he calls me exotic. Believe me, I’m not. I’m from NYC. People say I’m gorgeous, but maybe they just find me different. He says I’m exotic because he never saw anyone like me where he grew up.

I adore this guy. It’s just so hard to learn about him and to have him say how he feels. I’m actually crazy for him. He doesn’t let me go but he is too cold in the way he says things. I’m so expressive and emotional. I need people, men from Minnesota to tell me if this is normal or what?

Help!!!

Geez, generalize much?
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Old 05-17-2019, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Chisago Lakes, Minnesota
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Sounds like a guy just being himself. You're obviously totally into him. Why are you worried about his personality being a Minnesota thing if that's the case?

Sorry, this reeks of a troll posting. Apologies in advance if I'm wrong.
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Old 05-17-2019, 01:44 PM
 
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Old 05-17-2019, 01:45 PM
 
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I know don’t want to generalize. I’m sorry. I just heard people up north are reserved. He’s told me that. I dint know how to deal with it. That’s why i would love to have a different point of view.
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Old 05-18-2019, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Chisago Lakes, Minnesota
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I know don’t want to generalize. I’m sorry. I just heard people up north are reserved. He’s told me that. I dint know how to deal with it. That’s why i would love to have a different point of view.
There's a relationships forum on CD you might have better luck in until some of the women on this one can give their take on the men here.
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Old 05-18-2019, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities
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There's a relationships forum on CD you might have better luck in until some of the women on this one can give their take on the men here.
The OP specifically asked for input from men. A national relationship forum is not going to provide insight into regional mannerisms.

My advice is she should relax. Her guy is not acting abnormally.
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Old 05-18-2019, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Chisago Lakes, Minnesota
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The OP specifically asked for input from men. A national relationship forum is not going to provide insight into regional mannerisms.

My advice is she should relax. Her guy is not acting abnormally.
I got it, but men (most men) don’t pay attention to the kind of stuff she’s asking about. That’s a woman thing down the line IMO. Guys aren’t aware of how they act, they just act - and then the women are the ones who outline it all.

Plus, how do you know a national forum couldn’t help? You think she’s the only out of stater to ever become involved with a guy from Minnesota?
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