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Has anyone experienced a family dynamic where the husband/wife relationship was of the highest importance? Regardless of children.
You hear a lot of people say they stay in miserable marriages "for the kids" but has anyone been in a situation where the parents told the children if they ever came between a wife and husband, they would be the one leaving?
Not directly, but there was a couple in town that turned their kids in for adoption. I think the reason stated was that they just didn't want to raise them anymore. I wonder how badly screwed up the kids are today.
Not directly, but there was a couple in town that turned their kids in for adoption. I think the reason stated was that they just didn't want to raise them anymore. I wonder how badly screwed up the kids are today.
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Has anyone experienced a family dynamic where the husband/wife relationship was of the highest importance? Regardless of children.
You hear a lot of people say they stay in miserable marriages "for the kids" but has anyone been in a situation where the parents told the children if they ever came between a wife and husband, they would be the one leaving?
That's as it should be. As someome once said, you and your spouse are life partners raising children who are basically guests in your home and who will grow up and leave your home. But you and your spouse are life partners.
If parents put each other first the children have a lot better chance in the world. If they put the children first, it only puts a division between them. Put each other first so you can come together for the common most important thing in your lives--the children.
One thing that I have seen is the situation when a man or woman marries someone who already has children and their new step Mother or step Father just puts up with them because they're only interest is in their new spouse. Generally a parent has an almost instinctive attachment for their own biological children although of course this is not always the case. There are situations in which a parent is so fearful of losing their spouse that their own children become neglected and take on a less important status.
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I tend to agree, but it had to have some adverse effects.
I can only imagine that being raised by someone who doesn't want you would be even worse--that's assuming they were taken in by someone who does want them and shows it.
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