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Don't beat yourself up, even though it appears that neither of you prepared well for this visit. An online friend is not your best friend. You need to make some real friends where you live. At this point, no texting to her, do not take her calls, and do not diss her on any social networking site. It is over and it is time to get on with your life with people who you can interact with in person.
Don't beat yourself up, even though it appears that neither of you prepared well for this visit. An online friend is not your best friend. You need to make some real friends where you live. At this point, no texting to her, do not take her calls, and do not diss her on any social networking site. It is over and it is time to get on with your life with people who you can interact with in person.
I'm doing my best to keep my distance. I would tell myself that what I did isn't a crime.
I made friends with a girl from CO on an online forum. I ended up moving to CO and we are now very good "real life" friends and I'm close to her family. Not everyone you meet on the internet is a nut and "real life" friends ********* over and get angry with you as well.
Anyway, this story doesn't add up to me. Why did you promise to pay for everything while you were on your trip? Shouldn't friends each pay their own way? Is this friend having a hard time financially? I'm torn between saying what your friend is a nut and a mooch, and saying shame on you OP for promising to help pay for your activities and then showing up without any money. Hope you both learned a good lesson.
Your best friend?? Seven years before you met her in real life? Sitting in front of a computer communicating, texting, talking on the cell phone or twitter doesn't really qualify a person to be 'your best friend.' You need to get out in the real world not a virtual world. Behind the electronics they could be a 'slob' or a 'neat freak' ... you really don't know people until you actually spend one on one face to face time with them. Some internet 'best friends' do work out I am sure after spending real time with each other.
I played cards once a week for years with a group on the internet that I would call my friends ... not my best friends. We have all met in real life many times. One guy that everyone liked on the internet is a snot in real life. LOL He knows everything, you've met people like that I am sure ... in our card games he can't come across as the 'Mr. Know-It-All' ... my husband jokingly says 'we know the smartest man in the whole world!' His wife was a lovely lady that didn't talk much in real life but playing cards she came alive. None of these things was visible online.
It's interesting to me that you can share quite a bit online with someone and the biggest thing people fight about never comes up online: MONEY. So, after seven years, you know the basics, you know how she deals with loss, you may know her sense of humor and so on. BUT, you don't know about money.
I don't think you should've promised to pay for the whole trip...that's weird to me and if I were her, I would not have accepted that arrangement. However, as you already know, you misappropriated funds early on and that probably left her feeling weird about you. But her reaction? The reaction doesnt' "seem" to fit the "crime". Best to move on....
Two weeks ago, I went to visit an online female friend in California after seven years of interaction.
She was never a real life friend. She is just someone with weird personality disorder who gets mad over something non-signficant.
Do you really want to be friends with someone like that. SERIOUSLY now!
There are tons more normal, reasonable people in your hometown and in real life and not some internet weirdo with weird personality and lack of emotional maturity.
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His wife was a lovely lady that didn't talk much in real life but playing cards she came alive. None of these things was visible online. 
