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I'm socially awkward, I've been this way for as long as I could remember. Because of past experiences, I keep to myself, I hardly converse or hang out with other people, and those who do usually text me first ask for advice. In all honesty I like being by myself but I get frustrated sometimes. Besides school, I usually go home, play games, read as book, and research careers and apply for jobs online. I feel bad because sometimes compared to others I feel like a failure, I cut myself from the rest of the world and other people because I have a negative view on people in general. Although, when I'm out in public I generally have a happy go lucky personality and I usually attempt to help others when they need advice on something.
My parents want me to join a support group and part of me does, but I'm kind of torn. How do people with social awkwardness cope in the real world?
I'm socially awkward, I've been this way for as long as I could remember. Because of past experiences, I keep to myself, I hardly converse or hang out with other people, and those who do usually text me first ask for advice. In all honesty I like being by myself but I get frustrated sometimes. Besides school, I usually go home, play games, read as book, and research careers and apply for jobs online. I feel bad because sometimes compared to others I feel like a failure, I cut myself from the rest of the world and other people because I have a negative view on people in general. Although, when I'm out in public I generally have a happy go lucky personality and I usually attempt to help others when they need advice on something.
My parents want me to join a support group and part of me does, but I'm kind of torn. How do people with social awkwardness cope in the real world?
How old are you? If you are late teens, early 20's, probably not that big a deal.
But if you are mid to late 20's or beyond, and still are socially awkward, it is just how you are.
But, I wouldn't worry about it that much.
Just try to enjoy your hobbies, and meet people through hobbies, school, friends, or family.
From your original post, you simply sound like "you". It's your nature. However, you didn't mention specifically what these "past experiences" were. Everyone has "past experiences". Your parents recommended some sort of therapy - for what? You being you? Or is there more to it? Some psychological trauma?
I happen to be an expert on this. I'm an engineer.
What do engineers use for birth control?
Spoiler
Their personalities
When does a person decide to become an engineer?
Spoiler
When he realizes he doesn't have enough charisma to become an undertaker.
Just because you are not a social butterfly doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You sound like a pretty interesting person to me. Reading, playing games, school. What's wrong with that. Actually, I've found that people who have a million friends are people that I don't quite trust.
I'm with you about keeping to yourself.
Still, it's not a bad thing to expand your circle and meet new people once in a while. Just remember who you are and don't get lost in the moment of trying to get people to like you.
The usual advice is to find a club or organization which is dedicated to a cause, interest or talent you have. If you like to train dogs, then you'd join a dog training club, for instance. If you support a political candidate, then you'd volunteer to work for him or her.
The point is, you need to witness other people interacting with each other, and to experience more of this yourself. Even if you are 35! Or 16. And your efforts would be in support of a good cause, or because you had a particular talent.
But it is OK to be introverted and to prefer a lot of quiet time in your life.
I'm pretty awkward, too. I used to think it had something to do with me being gay. Or maybe its vice versa.
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