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This is hard to admit, but I want to get some opinions here. So I am a female college student in my early-mid 20's, and recently joined a few "sugar daddy" dating sites as well as millionaire match. Basically the sites connect older, "wealthy" or established men with young, attractive women. Not saying I look like a model by any means but have been told I am "very pretty" on many occasions, am very slim and keep active, am relatively well-traveled, AND am comfortable in many social settings and a good listener.. Meanwhile, a lot of the men that have been messaging me(only met 1, scum of the earth) are significantly overweight, bald or balding, old (as in some could be my grandfather) yet seem to expect a physically intimate relationship often on the first meet (which ive specified in my profile that i NEVER DO) without offering me anything monetarily or material wise besides MAYBE a dinner at (hang on to your hats) Subway. Don’t get me wrong, I like a five dollar foot long as much as the next person but I was hoping for something a little classier…Quiznos perhaps, lol. Is it just me or does anyone else find this strange for a first meeting? Also, I know this post makes me sound like an escort which is not my intention at all, BUT, the point of the particular site I joined called "seeking arrangement", is that companionship (depending where that leads) in exchange for a monthly allowance or gifts (shopping, travel, fine dining,etc). I told a few male-friends about this and they said I'm turning in to a 'gold digger' and one even lead to a falling out(hopefully just temporary) because he thinks I'm superficial.
So to sum it up, and I know im going to get tons of crap for this, but needless to say if an overweight, physically undesirable older man wants the company, companionship and perhaps physical component of a relationship with an attractive young woman, am I not being fair in expecting something in return either in the form of gifts (nice shopping trips, vacation,etc) or some type of allowance (could happily be a college tuition bill, a couple text books, WHATEVER). My thoughts are if an older unattractive man(often married btw) wants access to a younger woman and is demanding of her time and often her body, she should be getting something out of it too since I am doing him a FAVOR. Now if the guy is physically attractive and we both are 'in to each other' different story.
Is it just me or does anyone else find this strange for a first meeting?
Nope...not strange. I think many men using these escort dating sights would expect sex on the first date.
Also, I know this post makes me sound like an escort which is not my intention at all, BUT, the point of the particular site I joined called "seeking arrangement", is that companionship (depending where that leads) in exchange for a monthly allowance or gifts (shopping, travel, fine dining,etc).
You do realize that you are talking about prostitution at this point?
I told a few male-friends about this and they said I'm turning in to a 'gold digger' and one even lead to a falling out(hopefully just temporary) because he thinks I'm superficial.
He is right. What are you hoping to get? Other than money and gifts from these men?
So to sum it up, and I know im going to get tons of crap for this, but needless to say if an overweight, physically undesirable older man wants the company, companionship and perhaps physical component of a relationship with an attractive young woman, am I not being fair in expecting something in return either in the form of gifts (nice shopping trips, vacation,etc) or some type of allowance (could happily be a college tuition bill, a couple text books, WHATEVER). My thoughts are if an older unattractive man(often married btw) wants access to a younger woman and is demanding of her time and often her body, she should be getting something out of it too since I am doing him a FAVOR.
Spoken like a true prostitute...
Honestly What are your thoughts?
Think I was pretty honest. You are talking about selling yourself. Plain and simple. There are names for girls like you and "gold digger" is the nicest one.
Sorry if he's taking you to subway I don't think he's actually a millionaire. Most of those men on those sites are fakes and scammers.
Grecian-I think you are right, a lot of posers and 50k a year 'millionaires' with the leased benz and designer watch coming home to a crappy studio. I figured that out pretty quickly (almost instantaneously with this chump).
Sabine-wow that was pretty harsh. While I appreciate your honesty, you kind of misinterpreted my post. Never planned on using this site as an escort, and I made it clear on my profile and in person to this man (and any others id meet) that I NEVER GET INTIMATE on the first meet(if ever) under ANY circumstance. And no, its not "just about money and gifts". Sure, that's a part of it, not denying that, but its about mutual companionship, and i would never dream of setting up an 'arrangement' with someone whom i didnt have shared interests and hobbies with and didnt enjoy eachothers company(not talking physical), but friendship, sense of humor, etc. Also, I was leaning more towards 'hot date' or 'arm candy'(not to sound conceited) than actually 'putting out'.
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So to sum it up, and I know im going to get tons of crap for this, but needless to say if an overweight, physically undesirable older man wants the company, companionship and perhaps physical component of a relationship with an attractive young woman, am I not being fair in expecting something in return either in the form of gifts (nice shopping trips, vacation,etc) or some type of allowance (could happily be a college tuition bill, a couple text books, WHATEVER). My thoughts are if an older unattractive man(often married btw) wants access to a younger woman and is demanding of her time and often her body, she should be getting something out of it too since I am doing him a FAVOR. Now if the guy is physically attractive and we both are 'in to each other' different story.
Honestly What are your thoughts?
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Sabine-wow that was pretty harsh. While I appreciate your honesty, you kind of misinterpreted my post. Never planned on using this site as an escort, and I made it clear on my profile and in person to this man (and any others id meet) that I NEVER GET INTIMATE on the first encounter(if ever) under ANY circumstance. And no, its not "just about money and gifts". Sure, that's a part of it, not denying that, but its about mutual companionship, and i would never dream of setting up an 'arrangement' with someone whom i didnt have shared interests and hobbies with and didnt enjoy eachothers company(not talking physical), but friendship, sense of humor, etc. Also, I was leaning more towards 'hot date' or 'arm candy'(not to sound conceited) than actually 'putting out'.
First of all, if you post that you want honest replies, you should be prepared to get them.
In your OP you wrote that if a younger woman gives an older, unattractive man her body (and time), she should get some kind of financial return. I agree with Sabine. You are talking about becoming a call girl, to put it politely.
Now that you are getting negative feedback you back pedal and post about "friendship," "enjoying one another's company," etc. and not "actually putting out."
Well, which is it? If you're looking for "friendship" and "shared interests," you'll have a much better chance of finding those things with a man closer to your own age, using a more conventional dating site.
A man is not going to shower you with the sort of gifts and money you describe in your OP just for "arm candy," and I'm pretty sure you're aware of that.
You want to get yourself a well paid part-time job, using your looks and your body in return for money. You want us to tell you it's just fine to be a prostitute. Well, IMO it's not. I'm not passing a moral judgement on you - your sex life is your own business. However, it's extremely dangerous to solicit strangers for sex on the Internet. You might as well go down to the street corner and get in Ted Bundy's car or accept a "date" with the Green River killer.
For another thing, you're taking a big chance on acquiring any and all STD's from Herpes to HIV. Condoms aren't fool proof and what makes you think one of these men might not rape you, and not be gentleman enough to put on a condom before he does?
Finally, there's nothing to prevent fat old geezers living on Social Security from posting about their imaginary yachts and huge bank accounts. The Subway guy was obviously someone like that. Scammers will be in the majority of the responses you receive. They'll string you along and waste your time for as long as they can.
You seem like a very pragmatic young woman. Think about it. How much money will you really be making per hour, Green River killer aside? Not very much when all is said and done. How much of your time did you invest in the Subway guy from finding him on the Internet, making arrangements to meet, doing your hair and nails and putting on a sexy outfit (which costs you your OWN money)? Then you get to spend a boring one or two or three hours - whatever - in a lousey sandwich shop. All for nothing.
Pffft! What a huge waste of time! And, sugar, believe me, it's not going to get any better. Most colleges have student employment centers. Check out yours. At least THEY will help you get a job that gives you a steady paycheck.
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Sabine-wow that was pretty harsh. While I appreciate your honesty, you kind of misinterpreted my post. Never planned on using this site as an escort, and I made it clear on my profile and in person to this man (and any others id meet) that I NEVER GET INTIMATE on the first meet(if ever) under ANY circumstance. And no, its not "just about money and gifts". Sure, that's a part of it, not denying that, but its about mutual companionship, and i would never dream of setting up an 'arrangement' with someone whom i didnt have shared interests and hobbies with and didnt enjoy eachothers company(not talking physical), but friendship, sense of humor, etc. Also, I was leaning more towards 'hot date' or 'arm candy'(not to sound conceited) than actually 'putting out'.
What you're looking for definitely is gold-digging. You can convince yourself that its not gold-digging, superficial, floozy... but here you are saying: "Companionship for monthly allowance/gifts".
If you don't run in those circles or have any connections, then forget about finding a millionaire.
So to sum it up, and I know im going to get tons of crap for this, but needless to say if an overweight, physically undesirable older man wants the company, companionship and perhaps physical component of a relationship with an attractive young woman, am I not being fair in expecting something in return either in the form of gifts (nice shopping trips, vacation,etc) or some type of allowance (could happily be a college tuition bill, a couple text books, WHATEVER). My thoughts are if an older unattractive man(often married btw) wants access to a younger woman and is demanding of her time and often her body, she should be getting something out of it too since I am doing him a FAVOR. Now if the guy is physically attractive and we both are 'in to each other' different story.
Honestly What are your thoughts?
Honestly, my thoughts are that you sound like a hooker. What you describe is just a convoluted form of prostitution. Don't kid yourself otherwise.
Hey, you asked.
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