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I would leave it up to your boyfriend to tell HIS Mother to knock her crap off or to plan on not staying in the home you BOTH live in. IF they do stay in the home his Mother can sleep on the couch and you should sleep where you normally sleep which is in YOUR BED. There should be no "special" arrangements made to accomodate her and you should not have to "hide" in your own home.
HE needs to deal with his Mother and set her boundries and tell her the moment her mouth or actions get out of line that she needs to knock it off or escort her right out the door.
I want to give you an update. Thanks you all for the comments and suggestions.
I am not by any mean subservient although in that situation last year I could see why I was viewed in such a way. After long discussion between me and BF, we decided to take Amanda (the sister) to our home but not grandma.
We also decided to break the news to her first. She then told grandma, which in turn furiously called BF. BF put her on speaker phone. She basically told him how ungrateful he is as a son, how she had to carry him in her womb for 9 months, etc. At that point, I came to realization that this woman is beyond crazy and will use any means necessary to get her way.
It took me so much to be angry at somebody, and that was the moment I snapped. All the hell broke lose as I cursed and yelled at her. It was so therapeutic. LOL.
Anyway thanks guys. So Amanda will come with Jake (her son), and grandma will not come along. They will stay in our place.
I want to give you an update. Thanks you all for the comments and suggestions.
I am not by any mean subservient although in that situation last year I could see why I was viewed in such a way.
After long discussion between me and BF, we decided to take Amanda (the sister) to our home but not grandma.
We also decided to break the news to her first. She then told grandma, which in turn furiously called BF. BF put her on speaker phone. She basically told him how ungrateful he is as a son, how she had to carry him in her womb for 9 months, etc. At that point, I came to realization that this woman is beyond crazy and will use any means necessary to get her way.
It took me so much to be angry at somebody, and that was the moment I snapped. All the hell broke lose as I cursed and yelled at her. It was so therapeutic. LOL.
Anyway thanks guys. So Amanda will come with Jake (her son), and grandma will not come along. They will stay in our place.
Something tells me Amanda (and you and your BF) will have a much better time without the old bat.
I have always wondered about when a mother will throw out that she carried her child, and due to that, the child must always give in to everything. Should the child have paid rent on that womb space?
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Originally Posted by asiandudeyo
BTW while that woman was on the phone yelling at my BF, Jake (my BF's sister's son) was apparently within vicinity. At some point he yelled at her, "Grandma you are angry all the time. You need to get laid". DOH! This is coming from a 7 years old boy. I hope he does not know what he was talking about.
He has heard his mother (Amanda) say it of her mother. He just repeated.
I'm glad it worked out for you. I do wish that you hadn't lowered yourself to a yelling match. When someone has to deal with their parent, we have to be supportive, but not part of the problem. Hope it doesn't get thrown up to you at some later date.
I want to give you an update. Thanks you all for the comments and suggestions.
I am not by any mean subservient although in that situation last year I could see why I was viewed in such a way.
After long discussion between me and BF, we decided to take Amanda (the sister) to our home but not grandma.
We also decided to break the news to her first. She then told grandma, which in turn furiously called BF. BF put her on speaker phone. She basically told him how ungrateful he is as a son, how she had to carry him in her womb for 9 months, etc. At that point, I came to realization that this woman is beyond crazy and will use any means necessary to get her way.
It took me so much to be angry at somebody, and that was the moment I snapped. All the hell broke lose as I cursed and yelled at her. It was so therapeutic. LOL.
Anyway thanks guys. So Amanda will come with Jake (her son), and grandma will not come along. They will stay in our place.
Glad to see you stuck up for yourself in YOUR home. No one should treat you that way in your home.....NO ONE!
I'm Italian and my Italian grandmas are deceased...but I've seen them with their opinions flying around. If you don't stand-up to them and let them know the rules of your house, they'll continue to treat you that way.
Kudos to you for standing your ground....and to your bf for understanding your POV.
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