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Did she ask you to move in with her? Is she trying to borrow money from you? I don't get what the big deal is, be friendly in return and also explain to her you don't like talking mid-lecture. So many people are socially awkward and really don't have the right skills to seek out and establish friendships, be kind to them.
Did she ask you to move in with her? Is she trying to borrow money from you? I don't get what the big deal is, be friendly in return and also explain to her you don't like talking mid-lecture. So many people are socially awkward and really don't have the right skills to seek out and establish friendships, be kind to them.
I am being friendly, but she is being too friendly. And this past lecture while she was trying to talk to me, I looked at her and did the "shh" sign (see below) and she said, "Oh, okay". A few seconds later she started talking again. I don't understand what's so hard about that.
Sounds like mild ADD. She probably can't help how she is, but you deserve a good learning experience. If she doesn't take the hints, a private conference with the instructor is in order. You aren't there to manage her problems, you're there to learn.
Before class begins, just say to her, "I know I haven't said this before, but I actually really dislike talking during lecture. I have to pay close attention to the teacher to hear everything she/he says." If she ignores you and starts talking to you during lecture, say to her in your normal voice (rather than a whisper), "I'm trying to listen to the lecture." Other people around you will turn and look, and it will probably embarrass her a little without you having to be mean.
If that doesn't work, then talk to the instructor after class. See if it's possible to switch groups. Whether you can switch groups or not, make sure that in the future, you always sit away from her.
Did she ask you to move in with her? Is she trying to borrow money from you? I don't get what the big deal is, be friendly in return and also explain to her you don't like talking mid-lecture. So many people are socially awkward and really don't have the right skills to seek out and establish friendships, be kind to them.
I like you. One of my dearest friends is like that. She just can't stop talking, even in the movies I almost blew off her friendship because I thought she was an air head. I just didn't have the heart to dismiss someone trying so hard to be friends. She's one of the best people I know and I'm honored that she's my friend. I'd say give the poor girl a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised. There may be more to her then just a first bad impression.
I agree with NYC2RDU and animalcrazy. What you've mentioned is not a very good reason to not give this person a chance, imo. There are a lot of weird people out there who may still be very cool, interesting, decent, and/or kind. You just don't know if you don't give them a chance. She just sounds kind of socially awkward to me.
I can completely understand not wanting to chat during a lecture, but it doesn't take much effort to tell her before or after class one day "if you want to ask or tell me something, please do it after class." I would at least hear her out- it's not some kind of deep commitment to chat with someone a little. If you really can't stand her you can give her the cold shoulder as politely as possible, but I wouldn't write her off just yet. Ultimately it's your decision on what to do, but I've rarely regretted giving people a chance to be my friend if they've wanted to, fwiw.
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I like you. One of my dearest friends is like that. She just can't stop talking, even in the movies
I almost blew off her friendship because I thought she was an air head. I just didn't have the heart to dismiss someone trying so hard to be friends. She's one of the best people I know and I'm honored that she's my friend. I'd say give the poor girl a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised. There may be more to her then just a first bad impression.
