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Old 11-19-2009, 04:10 PM
 
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There is this woman - a friend of a friend - I invited to dinner, along with my friend. I phoned her a couple times in a week. She said she'd return my phone call and never did. Anyway, she said she'd come to dinner, then did not even bother to personally call me to tell me she couldn't make it. She made up some excuse to my friend about her car not working. My friend offered to go pick her up and she said no. I have to see this person on Thanksgiving. I am miffed. Would you say anything or just let it go?
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Old 11-19-2009, 04:12 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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There is this woman - a friend of a friend - I invited to dinner, along with my friend. I phoned her a couple times in a week. She said she'd return my phone call and never did. Anyway, she said she'd come to dinner, then did not even bother to personally call me to tell me she couldn't make it. She made up some excuse to my friend about her car not working. My friend offered to go pick her up and she said no. I have to see this person on Thanksgiving. I am miffed. Would you say anything or just let it go?
Let it go! It's nice that you extended the invitation but she obviously doesn't want to be friends, it happens. Not every person we think we might like to get to know wants to get to know us.
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Old 11-19-2009, 04:28 PM
 
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I wouldn't bother, but I wouldn't acknowledge her outside of a cordial hello on Thanksgiving.
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Old 11-19-2009, 04:48 PM
 
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Yeah, I just guess I'll let it go. Still, I think it was very rude of her to not call me and say something like, "sorry, I can't make it today, but thanks for the invite."

Now I just don't like her, but the truth is she probably feels more awkward at this point than I do.
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Old 11-19-2009, 04:57 PM
 
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Yeah, I just guess I'll let it go. Still, I think it was very rude of her to not call me and say something like, "sorry, I can't make it today, but thanks for the invite."

Now I just don't like her, but the truth is she probably feels more awkward at this point than I do.
Yes, so now you have the powah. Smile your best smile when you see her on Thanksgiving and say,"Hey! What happened to you? I never heard from you!"

And don't let it bother you any longer. Life is too short to be wondering about people with bad manners.
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Old 11-19-2009, 05:03 PM
 
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Yeah, I just guess I'll let it go. Still, I think it was very rude of her to not call me and say something like, "sorry, I can't make it today, but thanks for the invite."

Now I just don't like her, but the truth is she probably feels more awkward at this point than I do.
not to sound harsh, but either she:

- doesn't need more friends
- doesn't like you
- she is busy but thinks no bond was developed.

I guess making friends is hard, but with work it can pay off.
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Old 11-19-2009, 05:44 PM
 
Location: California
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Yeah, I just guess I'll let it go. Still, I think it was very rude of her to not call me and say something like, "sorry, I can't make it today, but thanks for the invite."

Now I just don't like her, but the truth is she probably feels more awkward at this point than I do.
Or not. Perhaps she doesn't think about things the same way you do. Where you have thought about it so much you posted on a forum about it, she may not have even thought about it at all. Maybe she has other things taking up headspace and this sort of thing doesn't register. Just consider that there are things going on in peoples live that you will never know about and act accordingly.
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Old 11-19-2009, 06:17 PM
 
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Or not. Perhaps she doesn't think about things the same way you do. Where you have thought about it so much you posted on a forum about it, she may not have even thought about it at all. Maybe she has other things taking up headspace and this sort of thing doesn't register. Just consider that there are things going on in peoples live that you will never know about and act accordingly.
I don't know. I could just as well post the checkout girl at the grocery store was rude to me and what is wrong with some people?! Registers about as much as that. I just wish I didn't have to see her again.

Truth is, from what I know I don't think much of her. She does not work and keeps some guy around just for financial reasons. She doesn't even sleep with him. I don't think too highly of her but it's an irritant.
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Old 11-19-2009, 06:22 PM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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I don't know. I could just as well post the checkout girl at the grocery store was rude to me and what is wrong with some people?! Registers about as much as that. I just wish I didn't have to see her again.

Truth is, from what I know I don't think much of her. She does not work and keeps some guy around just for financial reasons. She doesn't even sleep with him. I don't think too highly of her but it's an irritant.

Then why did you invite her to dinner???
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Old 11-19-2009, 07:05 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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I don't know. I could just as well post the checkout girl at the grocery store was rude to me and what is wrong with some people?! Registers about as much as that. I just wish I didn't have to see her again.

Truth is, from what I know I don't think much of her. She does not work and keeps some guy around just for financial reasons. She doesn't even sleep with him. I don't think too highly of her but it's an irritant.
Your mad at someone you invited for dinner and never liked to begin with,
put some perspective and logic there, no big loss, right?
Smile say hello and enjoy your Thanksgiving, end of story.
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