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Funny cause everyone on here was basically telling me, to keep my distance cause he obviously likes me more than a friend etc. And now you guys are saying "he's not into you" I don't think I should go on forums, cause it's ****ing confusing, when you have majority of people saying "He's into you, but you ruined it" and then having people say "He's not into you" So **** it, cause now this is just messing with my head even more I shouldn't have even gave a stupid update, cause now I am just more conflicted than I was.
Funny cause everyone on here was basically telling me, to keep my distance cause he obviously likes me more than a friend etc. And now you guys are saying "he's not into you" I don't think I should go on forums, cause it's ****ing confusing, when you have majority of people saying "He's into you, but you ruined it" and then having people say "He's not into you" So **** it, cause now this is just messing with my head even more I shouldn't have even gave a stupid update, cause now I am just more conflicted than I was.
No...different people offered differing opinions based on their perceptions and experiences. The whole group did not just collectively change its mind.
A little more critical thinking on your part could make your life a lot less confusing to you.
No...different people offered differing opinions based on their perceptions and experiences. The whole group did not just collectively change its mind.
A little more critical thinking on your part could make your life a lot less confusing to you.
No...you're right, but that's why I said "majority" not all. Majority of these people were telling me to keep my distance and that he liked me more than a friend, etc. So I followed that advice, and now I am just sad about it, and then to have other people comment and basically, and I am saying "basically" I am not saying they said this exactly, but basically people were saying "He's not into you" "Move on" "He did it for a ego boost" etc. Basically in others words he doesn't give a **** about me, and I guess I just don't want to hear that right now. I don't want to hear that he could care less about me. I am not putting my life on hold, cause like I said I have other priorities, if a guy I like comes along I will go for it. I am not putting my life on hold at all for Jim. It's just my life is at a stand still right now, cause I can't connect to anybody like I am with Jim and I do care and love Jim a lot, and I would hate to lose him as a friend. It will change eventually, but that's irrelevant, cause I can't get over this, and I don't want to lose my friend. But I understand the circumstances why. I guess what i'm trying to say is I wouldn't be as upset if he distanced himself from me cause he liked me, but I didn't reciprocate. I am going to be upset and hurt and sad if it's a thing where he just hates me and wants nothing to do with me, cause we have so much history with each other, and we were always close. So yes! It hurts me. It's also confusing to hear so many opinions and it ****s with my head cause I take it literally, when really I should take it with a grain of salt, cause none of us are in his mind, and we don't know what he's really thinking, but somehow I still take it literally and I go back and forth. I say "Well maybe he always did like me but distanced himself cause I never reciprocated" then I would go "But wait..maybe people are right, maybe he's just doing this for a ego boost and he never liked me from the start" So it's hard to decipher, and I am lost in everything. Conflicted as usual. But whatever, I guess that's my fault for going on a forum. Thanks anyways.
Okay, well, regardless of conflicting opinions, the obvious thing here is that you are wasting your energy about a person and situation that should not be relevant in your life. There are places to go, people to meet, things to do - you are 21 - and you are really putting so much time and energy into something that isn't going to materialize.
You can stop calling him your "friend". People don't act this way over "friends". This was a relationship that wasn't going to happen. You can pretend all you want that it's a "friend" or "best friend" or whatever, but nobody drives by a neighbourhood hoping to see a "friend" or pine over them like this.
And really, a 27 year old man who makes that kind of gesture? Even jokingly? Has no respect for you. He's 27. I'm his age - male friends do not do that at this age, unless they are talking to younger girls who they do not actually respect.
Part of getting older is the fortunate realization that it's OKAY if someone does not want to be your lover, friend, or even in the same room as you. It's totally okay. It does not reflect your self-worth.
I have a guy friend that I have seen for month.he has taken me out on date.he comes to my home I fix supper for his.he c has thing of his here.I feel like he is taking advantage of me.tell me what to do.
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