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My friend is currently dating a single mother. She has a four year old son.
He helps around the house and is a really supportive boyfriend. His girlfriend wanted him to bathe her toddler but my friend was very uncomfortable with the idea. He doesn't want to touch the toddler which I can certainly understand where he is coming from.
If it's a fairly serious relationship and they plan to take it any further then it shouldn't be an issue. Four years old shouldn't need much help anyway, other than hair washing and making sure he doesn't flood the bathroom while playing. At that age he should be capable of washing himself with a washcloth, maybe with a reminder to make sure he gets, ears, etc.
Sounds like she is preparing him to become her new babysitter. If he wants to be the stepfather I understand her doing that but otherwise it's using him.
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Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981
My friend is currently dating a single mother. She has a four year old son.
He helps around the house and is a really supportive boyfriend. His girlfriend wanted him to bathe her toddler but my friend was very uncomfortable with the idea. He doesn't want to touch the toddler which I can certainly understand where he is coming from.
Do you believe my friend is overreacting?
Thank you
Your friend has the CORRECT response. My mother would never EVER let another man bathe me when I was young. Something about a man who is not the kid's daddy or even stepfather, soap, and the kid naked reminds me of a Steve Wilkos episode waiting to happen.
I would say yes, there is or could be a problem. Where is the boy's father? IF, he should decide he doesn't like something about the relationship of the mother, it could get sticky if the boy's father finds it unacceptable and that would go for any relative. If this guy isn't planning to become an official daddy, it might be time to move on because I think mom plans for breaking him in as such.
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