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Ok, so this guy I have been liking texted me tonight at 8:30 saying "Hey what are you doing?" "You should come to Paul's bonfire" I didn't get the message til 10:45 cause I wasn't looking at my phone, lol, and I was at a party at that time, so then I texted him back, and I went to Paul's bonfire, but I arrived there at 12:15.
It was really awkward, cause it was kinda silent. Like 6 guys were there including the guy I like (Ryan) so what's weird is that Ryan kinda ignored me. He wasn't overly friendly, but he wasn't rude, he did speak to me, like he said "What did you do tonight?" I said "That my friend I can't disclose, haha" He just sighs. Ryan was kinda quiet with me, and I said "Where's Carl?" He said "Carl Left! You can't show up at 12:30 and expect it to a party, haha" I was like "Sorry but I always thought that's when the party starts, haha" and he just laughed.
So they all wanted to go to the bar and since I am 20 and not old enough, I said I'll see you guys, and Ryan said "Bye Sara Love you!"
I feel stupid even going there cause it was kinda awkward for me. Also I don't understand why Ryan would text me to invite me and then I was there he barely engaged with me, and didn't hug me or nothing, like why would you invite me then? He did say though they have been drinking since 3pm and it's 1am and they went to the bar, so go figure, lol.
Should I be offended? Like why would he invite me, but then kinda ignore me in a way? Is it shyness? Because he was drunk? Like what do you think? Thank you!
He texted you at 8:30, and you didnt show up until 12:30.
Thats way too late to be showing up and expecting things to be going on, especially when people are drinking.
You showed up WAY past the "prime time"
You shouldve gone when he invited you. If I was him I wouldve asked why you even bothered to show up.
It wouldve been better if you told him you saw his text late and are just going home.
Put yourself in his shoes, you invite a guy over to your backyard party who you like. He shows up 4 hours after you invite him when everyones either gone or past out drunk. Then you ask him why hes so late and he says he cant disclose that kind of info.....youd be pretty mad I bet...
He texted you at 8:30. You showed up after midnight and when he casually asked what you did that night, you gave him a non-answer. Then you asked about another guy. How exactly were you expecting him to react when the first three things you did seemed non-interested?
If you're wondering if he likes you, I wouldn't put a lot of money on it. Usually when a guy likes a girl, he makes a point to pursue her. Males usually pursue. He sounds like he might be interested enough to want a hook-up, but not like he wants you to be his girlfriend or anything. If he did, he would be trying harder. I would move on and not give the impression you waste time on guys who only halfheartedly like you, just like he didn't give the impression he was going to fall all over a girl who gave halfhearted responses to an invitation to a party.
He texted you at 8:30, and you didnt show up until 12:30.
Thats way too late to be showing up and expecting things to be going on, especially when people are drinking.
You showed up WAY past the "prime time"
You shouldve gone when he invited you. If I was him I wouldve asked why you even bothered to show up.
It wouldve been better if you told him you saw his text late and are just going home.
Put yourself in his shoes, you invite a guy over to your backyard party who you like. He shows up 4 hours after you invite him when everyones either gone or past out drunk. Then you ask him why hes so late and he says he cant disclose that kind of info.....youd be pretty mad I bet...
I know! It was so awkward too! I really didn't know he texted me, cause I was intoxicated, and I wasn't on my phone, and I was mingling with everyone at the previous party, so I really didn't see the text, but I thought since Paul has late bonfires that it wouldn't be a big deal to show up there. But you're right! I did show up way past the time, and honestly you're right too when you say "I bet you would be mad" You're right I would! If it was the other way around, cause I would think I am not a priority in his eyes, and I would think he is just showing up cause there is nothing else to do etc. So you made some good points there. Thank you!
Yeah that's me! lol! But this is a different guy I am talking about, and I just like to go on these forums to see what other's think to validate my opinion on it. I am not really clueless, but thanks for putting my OLD forum up, that I am not talking about anymore, hahaha.
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Originally Posted by biscuitmom
Booty call, from someone too drunk to follow through.
It could have been, but I highly doubt it. He might have been texting a lot of people, and plus he didn't try to make the moves on me. He was drunk, but honestly you would think he's sober, I mean they drank like pigs, but their alcohol tolerance is through the roof, which is bad cause that shows alcoholism. So I am not really sure about that, but thanks anyways.
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Originally Posted by kitkatbar
He texted you at 8:30. You showed up after midnight and when he casually asked what you did that night, you gave him a non-answer. Then you asked about another guy. How exactly were you expecting him to react when the first three things you did seemed non-interested?
If you're wondering if he likes you, I wouldn't put a lot of money on it. Usually when a guy likes a girl, he makes a point to pursue her. Males usually pursue. He sounds like he might be interested enough to want a hook-up, but not like he wants you to be his girlfriend or anything. If he did, he would be trying harder. I would move on and not give the impression you waste time on guys who only halfheartedly like you, just like he didn't give the impression he was going to fall all over a girl who gave halfhearted responses to an invitation to a party.
Yeah, I see. I know what you mean cause if I liked a guy and he showed up hours later and then seemed kinda disinterested then I would be very upset that I am not a priority in his eyes, and that Paul's bonfire was just something to do etc. You're right, but honestly I think I act like a flake with him constantly. He kept thanking me for the antibiotics I gave him like a week ago, lol. I mean like I said he wasn't too friendly, but he wasn't too rude either, I guess you would say he was neutral. But I don't know in the past he did try to date me, but I always rejected him cause I was interested in another guy. So I do admit I am kinda flakey, and that's not cool, I know that. But thank you for commenting! You made valid points!
You kinda made the mistake..
He texted you at 8:30, and you didnt show up until 12:30.
Thats way too late to be showing up and expecting things to be going on, especially when people are drinking.
You showed up WAY past the "prime time"
You shouldve gone when he invited you. If I was him I wouldve asked why you even bothered to show up.
It wouldve been better if you told him you saw his text late and are just going home
Put yourself in his shoes, you invite a guy over to your backyard party who you like. He shows up 4 hours after you invite him when everyones either gone or past out drunk. Then you ask him why hes so late and he says he cant disclose that kind of info.....youd be pretty mad I bet...
Excellent!
Disappointment sets in pretty fast when the one you invited doesn't show up.
It would be hard for anyone to pick up their enthusiasm at that point...let alone
a young man.
You could try texting him ....ask him to coffee today on you, saying you'd like to make
up for not getting his text at 8:30....always say, "I underdstand how that might have made you feel, I'm sorry."
( Or something of that nature..."I wouldn't have liked it if someone showed up
4 hrs later, I'm sorry.")
Those happen to be the magic words, in bold, in all relationships; parents, boss, lovers and your doggie.
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