U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
Old 01-01-2015, 08:58 AM
3 posts, read 2,988 times
Reputation: 10


After reading all the comments, I have to agree that contacting old flames can be a slippery slope. At a recent class reunion, although we all looked a lot different, in many cases, I was blown away at how the familiarity with one another came back so easily, even after so many years. It was really great to renew some of these relationships (some who I dated) and nothing bad has come from it.

But I do now regret the email to the old flame and second email to explain the first. While I would love the opportunity to talk with her, what if she's married or in a relationship and it causes her problems or results in an emotional affair or worse? My mistake, should probably leave the past in the past in this case.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Old 01-01-2015, 10:28 AM
3,111 posts, read 7,000,004 times
Reputation: 4251
Isn't that what Facebook is for? To "stalk" people whether friends or not? I don't see the big deal for sending a message or friend request. If she doesn't respond, then you have your answer.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-13-2018, 02:47 AM
1 posts, read 147 times
Reputation: 10
I recently had a dream about an ex girlfriend from about 30yrs ago and it's been driving me up the wall ever since, I've never forgotten about her and I still care about her after all these years, I'm tempted to make contact via facebook but I'm nervous about it incase she rejects my friend request.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-13-2018, 07:39 AM
6,406 posts, read 2,309,805 times
Reputation: 14757
I think it's fine to reach out. If she's not interested, she won't respond.

I would not think it weird or creepy if I recieved something like this;

"Hi Sassy, I was reminicsing the other day about when I was younger, places I used to go, old friends and such, and I got to wondering about you, and remembering you fondly. I thought your name might be different now, so I looked up your dad, and through him, came across your name.

So how have you been? My life is good. I'm married, and have 3 boys. They're all in high school. I work as a manager for a tech company in San Diego.

So how about you? What's new? I always think of you fondly, and hope life has been good to you. I'd love to hear from you to catch up if you're agreeable to it. - John
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-13-2018, 07:43 AM
6,406 posts, read 2,309,805 times
Reputation: 14757
Originally Posted by bamadad View Post
I recently contacted an old GF of 20 plus yrs. She isn't on FB that I know about and neither am I. I came across her email by chance. I have very fond memories of her but I ended the relationship in a way I regretted(she was crazy about me but I wasn't ready). She contacted me during our college years once but I was in a relationship so I didn't reciprocate. I recently made the contact just because I wanted her to know how fondly I remember her and sorry for my thoughtlessness back in the day. I hope I didn't come across creepy our strange but now fear I have. I will not persue any further contact but hope I didn't do the wrong thing and cause her concern.

She might've appreciated the closure bamadad.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-15-2018, 03:11 PM
Location: Minnesota
560 posts, read 136,317 times
Reputation: 1671
What do you mean by not using her real last name? If you don't know if she's married or not then how do you know it's not her real last name? If you are truly meaning no harm then send the request. She'll accept or she won't, either way no harm done.

I have exes that are friends and there's nothing weird or creepy. We knew each other a long time ago and still have some common interests so we chat here and there on different posts. That said I also had an ex that I had to unfriend and block because he kept private messaging me wanting to reminisce about the old days in a much more personal nature than "hey, remember that concert we went to? " So, yes, go ahead and send the request but NOT if you're planning on trying to stir anything up. That's just wrong.

HAHAHA I just saw this original post is 4 years old! I guess if you were a stalker she's blocked you by now!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.

Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 06:17 AM.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top