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How do you feel about drop-in visitors...and what is your age group also so that we can see if there is a difference in opinion from age group to age group?
Personally, I don't like drop-in visitors. I think it is common courtesy to call first to see if it is convenient for someone to come by. I guess that is just the way I was raised. How about you?
I grew up in a household where people dropped by all the time. Both my father and my mother were raised this way. We would frequently just take a brief detour if we were in someone's neighborhood to say hi. Among family this also was the norm. But back then, there were no cell phones, and no one carried their address books with phone numbers around with them.
As an adult, I don't really do this. There's no need with cell phones, and it's so easy to stay in touch via facebook. My father would have long-lost cousins stopping by on any given day. Losing touch was common - not so much anymore.
I DID do a drop-in with an elderly former neighbor. She had run into my father and asked him to have me call her. Well, I'd moved across the country and had lost her number. So when I was home, I popped in. She is of the "drop in" generation though, and was delighted to see me - I ended up staying an hour or two, chatting and drinking coffee. But we solved the loss of contact problem by becoming FB friends.
I dunno though, I kind of miss the days of "dropping in" on your friends and family. It was always a nice surprise, and everyone was emotionally intelligent enough to understand that if you had something scheduled, that took precedence over surprise visitors.
I have a few friends who do drop by on occasion still, and I really enjoy it. Though for myself, I"m more likely to call when I'm in the neighborhood and ask them if they want to meet for a beer or coffee rather than just showing up at the door.
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I will not open the door for anyone who cannot show courtesy to call or text beforehand, knowing damn well I have a busy schedule and may not be in any condition to have company.
If you are taking time to come over, we aren't going to slam a door in your face.
If you are troubled and need someone to talk to, we are here for you.
If you need a place to kill time (between appointments, or whatever!), come have a cup of tea and chat.
Of course, we might not be home, might be ready to go out the door, etc. But it's all good!
It was always a nice surprise, and everyone was emotionally intelligent enough to understand that if you had something scheduled, that took precedence over surprise visitors.
So true... many in the younger generation(s) are especially lacking in this, in my personal experience.
Over 40, and it depends on who it is. If I know them well enough that they come to the back door, they are welcome. If they ring the front door bell, not so happy with a surprise visit.
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