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I wouldn't cut him completely off but would distance myself from him. If he asks why be honest.
When you cut off a family member it affects future generations of the family, your grandchildren and his grandchildren, long after you both are dead. I have seen it happen in my own family with certain factions because of what 1 person did to another 50 years ago.
BTW, on the cold sores: I heard this and thought it was an old-wives' tale, but it works. When you feel one coming on, rub the spot with garlic on a regular basis (maybe every few hours and before going to sleep). Unbelievable. If it does come on anyway, keep doing it and it will be short-lived. Most of the time, though, it stops it altogether.
As to your relative, "keeping it real" means telling the truth. So, if he's kidding, he's not "keeping it real". Not only is he a jerk, he's stupid because he is using a phrase that he doesn't understand.
Some/many may say what's the big deal about cutting off a family member? So what if they're blood? It's no different than cutting off a friend for whatever reason you need to.
But for some reason I've always told myself that this particular family member is blood and I would never cut him off. He is my nephew but he's like a brother. We used to be close; lately he has not called daily anymore, which I'm glad. This man (36) is so very negative, meaning he says negative things to people. Mean things. He sent me a picture of a large woman and said she looked a lot like me. That's just one light example of the many things he does and says.
I just told him today how I feel hideous because i have coldsores (which he gets too) and said I feel so ugly that I shouldn't even show my face to my cat. I said "my cat can't even look at me." He said, "Neither can most people." -- implying (in my mind) that means even when I don't have cold sores.
He does this all in a "teasing" manner but in the same breath says "I'm just keepin' it real." So is he saying I'm fat and ugly and trying to be "real" or is he teasing? It hurts. And I'm fed up. He knows when he's crossed the line. I will ignore him for a few days and then he'll come back apologizing.
I am ready to say, like an intervention, if your behavior continues, I will not associate with you any longer. Ever. I'm done. Your behavior is NOT OK. And for my own self-respect, I will not tolerate it.
Should I?
I don't know that's kind of a coin toss. If you think he HATES you or holds in you contempt then, yes stop talking for a long time. If he's just an ill mannered person, period, with everybody then, just tell him back. Take some time to think before you say or do anything you might regret.
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