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When my husband and I were younger, we'd have been just thrilled with well an offer to babysit, but it doesn't appear that the couple in question has reached that stage yet. Perhaps you could keep it in mind for the future?
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We've been married five years this year, and my parents send us a card with a "little happy" in it -- sometimes some cash with instructions to go have a drink someplace before our anniversary dinner, sometimes a gift card to a restaurant, whatever. It's never anything extravagant but always just an appreciated fun little thing.
My husband's parents, however, don't send us anything -- which is fine, too. We don't feel slighted -- that's just how they are, and they've done plenty for us in lots of other ways.
Perspective from a married couple: neither sets of parents gives us any sort of anniversary present and I never would have expected anything of the sort.
My father thoughtfully remembers every year and either sends a note or good wishes by phone and I think he's the only one. I appreciate it (hell it helps remind me!), but I don't feel like anyone but my wife and I should even remember the date much less commemorate the marriage. it's between the couple unless there's a big milestone (25 years, 50 years, etc).
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Originally Posted by Mattie
While weddings are family affairs, I feel that anniversaries are "couple affairs", to be celebrated between the two of them. No gifts except what they give each other.
While weddings are family affairs, I feel that anniversaries are "couple affairs", to be celebrated between the two of them. No gifts except what they give each other.
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Originally Posted by SDWILLY
Perspective from a married couple: neither sets of parents gives us any sort of anniversary present and I never would have expected anything of the sort.
I agree with these posts^^.
I usually get a text or FB shout out from my parents and sister on our anniversary. I think it's nice that we get that simple acknowledgement because I don't expect my wedding anniversary to be special to anyone but my husband and I.
i think anniversaries are for the couple to celebrate, but if others mention it and pass along good wishes, that's ok too. I either send cards to my two married daughters and their spouses, or post congratulations on Facebook. They are accustomed to communicating on Facebook so they like,this.
A little funny story....my parents have been married for over 60 years. Each year my mom puts the same cute little card on the bedroom dresser as a reminder to my dad, and then
puts it back in the drawer until next year.
I have always thought anniversaries were just for the couple involved. I've never felt inclined to give a gift to others on their anniversary (outside of well wishes and maybe a card) and never expected anything for mine! However, I've had a few people send me gifts - my mom, an aunt, a family friend. My in laws usually send a card. Otherwise it's just well wishes, which is really more than enough IMO.
While weddings are family affairs, I feel that anniversaries are "couple affairs", to be celebrated between the two of them. No gifts except what they give each other.
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